--- product_id: 113740206 title: "It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't ..." price: "VT1315" currency: VUV in_stock: true reviews_count: 12 url: https://www.desertcart.vu/products/113740206-its-ok-that-youre-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss store_origin: VU region: Vanuatu --- # It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't ... **Price:** VT1315 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't ... - **How much does it cost?** VT1315 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vu](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/113740206-its-ok-that-youre-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand - Kindle edition by Devine LPC, Megan, Nepo, Mark. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand. Review: Truly helpful - In 2022, I lost my mother to breakthrough COVID 19. She was 56, I was 31. Losing a parent at that age is hard, because so many things are geared towards folks whose parents were older, or for a child who has lost their parent. 20's and 30's are a tough in between. This, a dedicated Facebook group for people in that age bracket who have lost parents, and therapy have helped. Especially when the loss is sudden or in any way unexpected, it can feel lonely. Sometimes people say or do things that are meant with good intentions, but they don't bring comfort, and you may feel alone in grief. After a short period of time, it's like people expect you to be "over it" when a losing someone very close, be it a parent, sibling, partner, child or pregnancy related loss, is something you can never "get over". Yet, on some level, you do need to figure out how to continue and live in the "after" time. This book meets that need perfectly. It doesn't sugarcoat, claim that time heals all wounds (because it does not), or use faith based narratives about some cosmic plan. Instead, it helps you honor the emotions and grief that we are often encouraged to downplay or hide, and acknowledge reality. Doing that, allows real healing. Yes, I still miss my mother every single day, but this book helped me get through the worst of it, and find peace in honoring her loss while putting one foot before another. Review: profound read - A book that deals with new theories about grief and how we get it wrong and fail to help those Who are grieving. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | ASIN | B073XXYKLP | | Accessibility | Learn more | | Best Sellers Rank | #14,032 in Kindle Store ( See Top 100 in Kindle Store ) #3 in Grief & Loss (Kindle Store) #5 in Sociology of Death #6 in Coping with Suicide Grief | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (2,620) | | Edition | 1st | | Enhanced typesetting | Enabled | | File size | 1.4 MB | | ISBN-13 | 978-1622039081 | | Language | English | | Page Flip | Enabled | | Print length | 282 pages | | Publication date | October 1, 2017 | | Publisher | St. Martin's Essentials | | Screen Reader | Supported | | Word Wise | Enabled | | X-Ray | Enabled | ## Images ![It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't ... - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71cBDfv2TOL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Truly helpful *by J***N on December 19, 2025* In 2022, I lost my mother to breakthrough COVID 19. She was 56, I was 31. Losing a parent at that age is hard, because so many things are geared towards folks whose parents were older, or for a child who has lost their parent. 20's and 30's are a tough in between. This, a dedicated Facebook group for people in that age bracket who have lost parents, and therapy have helped. Especially when the loss is sudden or in any way unexpected, it can feel lonely. Sometimes people say or do things that are meant with good intentions, but they don't bring comfort, and you may feel alone in grief. After a short period of time, it's like people expect you to be "over it" when a losing someone very close, be it a parent, sibling, partner, child or pregnancy related loss, is something you can never "get over". Yet, on some level, you do need to figure out how to continue and live in the "after" time. This book meets that need perfectly. It doesn't sugarcoat, claim that time heals all wounds (because it does not), or use faith based narratives about some cosmic plan. Instead, it helps you honor the emotions and grief that we are often encouraged to downplay or hide, and acknowledge reality. Doing that, allows real healing. Yes, I still miss my mother every single day, but this book helped me get through the worst of it, and find peace in honoring her loss while putting one foot before another. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ profound read *by A***R on January 29, 2026* A book that deals with new theories about grief and how we get it wrong and fail to help those Who are grieving. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Strongest on changing our models of grief; less strong on the way forward for individual grievers *by A***Y on April 2, 2019* I have twice experienced sudden and early death in my immediate family. First my father when I was 17, to a stomach hemorrhage when he was 46. Then my husband of 23 years, to an apparent accident when he was 52, in October 2015. Since my husband’s death, I have read dozens of grief books – and I’ve found Megan Devine’s “It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok” to be among the most insightful and helpful. I feel the book is strongest in the first chapters on the reality of loss, why words of comfort feel so bad, and why our models of grief are broken and how to change them. I particularly appreciate the book’s discussion of out-of-order deaths – those occurring early in life – as deaths that “change the way you see everything” and “transport you to an entirely different universe.” Devine does a masterful job of distinguishing between grief experiences that are nearly universal in contemporary American society, and grief experiences that vary according to each individual – and presenting recommendations accordingly. The nearly universal experiences, which she discusses in some depth, include being told by friends, family, and professional therapists that our grief is a disease in need of a cure; and being advised that this cure lies in discovering what we have gained from our loss. Devine’s recommendations center around respecting pain and grief as natural and healthy responses to losing those we have loved, and accepting that the path after a great loss is something “between eternally broken and completely healed.” The more varied experiences include choices around managing the “mind-boggling number of things you need to do when someone has died.” Most grief books will advise grieving people to delegate as much as possible, but Devine respects individual differences -- noting that for some grievers, “taking care of these details is the last tangible, intimate act of love they can do for the person who died.” I feel the book is less original and less helpful in the later chapters on finding a way forward after loss and finding a new “tribe”. Now 3-1/2 years after the greatest loss of my life, my challenge has been to find people who BOTH understand my grief AND who share my other interests and values. I was hoping Devine might offer fresh insights here, or at least acknowledge that this is a challenge -- but I found little in the way of recognition or suggestions. Devine’s book concludes, however, with a message for which I am immensely grateful: “By simply stating the truth, we open conversations about grief, which are really conversations about love. We start to love one another better. We begin to overhaul the falsely redemptive storyline that has us, as a culture and as individuals, insist that there’s a happy ending everywhere if only we look hard enough. We stop blaming each other for our pain, and instead, work together to change what can be changed, and withstand what can’t be fixed. We get more comfortable with hearing the truth, even when the truth breaks our hearts. In telling the truth, and in hearing the truth, we make things better even when we can’t make them right.” --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.vu/products/113740206-its-ok-that-youre-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/113740206-its-ok-that-youre-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss) --- *Product available on Desertcart Vanuatu* *Store origin: VU* *Last updated: 2026-05-18*