--- product_id: 145587285 title: "Mate: Become the Man Women Want" price: "VT18995" currency: VUV in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.vu/products/145587285-mate-become-the-man-women-want store_origin: VU region: Vanuatu --- # Mate: Become the Man Women Want **Price:** VT18995 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Mate: Become the Man Women Want - **How much does it cost?** VT18995 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vu](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/145587285-mate-become-the-man-women-want) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description The #1 bestselling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities. The short become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help. Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right - No "seduction techniques" - No moralizing - No bullshit Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you. Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid! Review: Smart, scientific, witty, EFFECTIVE. - Like any young man trying to navigate adulthood and dating, I have checked out many sources for information on how to deal with improving my dating life. I have read The Game, Robert Greene's Art of Seduction, pickup artist forums and on an on. They all had useful bits of information and valuable advice interspersed with ambiguous anecdotes, vague tips and in some cases, frankly unethical and ineffective information. This book provides ethical, scientifically-proven and effective ACTIONABLE information in a step-by-step and easy to understand way. The book starts off by explaining the female perspective on dating. Already, it is different from many dating books I have read (with the exception of probably Art of Seduction). If the reason for this is not immediately apparent, it is quickly explained and thoroughly examined to give men insight into the often misunderstood reasons behind many of women's actions and thoughts. It then goes on to outline the fundamental, underlying principle of attractiveness and the main 5 ways that male attractiveness is determined. I'm not going to sit here and give an entire outline of the book, but all - and I mean all of this book is based on scientific research, mostly from an evolutionary perspective to make the advice given applicable in every culture, for the vast majority of women and with a depth of understanding that is never seen in this sphere. I mean the references section is CHOCK FULL of scientific journal and books, more than any book I have seen including university textbooks. It's actually kind of ridiculous. Another key reason why this book is so good is that it is written with both empathy for men given the hardships of dating and the confusion dating without understanding can be, and a clear firm voice that forces men to take responsibility for their own attractiveness and dating destiny(pretty often chastising them for dumb behaviour common to young men). They incorporate so many things from different sources that will help with dating, but also have a greater impact on just plain quality of life (Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset, benefits of meditation, explanation of why sleep is important, how to have better mental health etc.) My only complaints were a few too many references to one of the authors and his life for my tastes(though I understand the reason why) and though there is always a scientific basis for the advice, the underlying principle isn't fully explained where it is brought up. I imagine this is to keep the book length reasonable and frankly, the authors do make it clear that becoming the man women want will take some independent work. Do yourself and the people around you a favour and buy this book, both for you and struggling men in your life. Make the world a better place. Review: A "How-To" for Relationships...and Manhood - Simply put, this book brought me joy, encouragement, motivation, and inspiration. I am grateful that the authors made it available to the world, and especially to all of the young, clueless guys like me. Joy: This book is straightforward, well-researched, and just downright funny. I don't usually think to describe nonfiction books as "page-turners," but this was absolutely a page-turner. I finished this book faster than any other nonfiction book I've ever read. Encouragement: The authors do a great job of respectfully and tactfully acknowledging and validating the fears of their readers--fear of rejection, fear of inadequacy, even fear of intimacy. But they were quick to follow-up with ways to help us identify not only some of the emotional problem(s) responsible for those fears, but also how to adapt our mindsets accordingly to deal with them. I felt like I got a mini emotional therapy session included at no additional charge. Motivation: Why is this book so perfect for men? Because every narrated insight is followed by specific, bulleted action items for translating little immediate steps into big future successes down the line. How can you become more physically attractive? 1, 2, 3, ... How can you demonstrate your intelligence and compassion effectively to women you like? 1, 2, 3, ... How can you plan a first date without absolutely screwing it up? 1, 2, 3, ... It's always easier to be motivated when the task at hand seems manageable. Inspiration: Finally... It is *NOT* filled with gimmicks or shortcuts or cheap tricks. It is filled with common-sense solutions that require genuine effort from the reader. Thus, it is empowering. And I personally found that, in turn, to be inspiring. I've made mistakes in past relationships, but I know what I can and need to do moving forward--and now I know how to pull it off. This book could easily serve as a man's "how to" for life just as well as it serves as a man's "how to" for relationships. And as the author's make abundantly clear, that overlap is by design. And that's why I plan to come back to it many times over, in the days and weeks and months to come. I highly, highly recommend this book. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #2,621,485 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) | | Customer Reviews | 4.5 out of 5 stars 773 Reviews | ## Images ![Mate: Become the Man Women Want - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/811m5QoeflL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Smart, scientific, witty, EFFECTIVE. *by A***R on September 22, 2015* Like any young man trying to navigate adulthood and dating, I have checked out many sources for information on how to deal with improving my dating life. I have read The Game, Robert Greene's Art of Seduction, pickup artist forums and on an on. They all had useful bits of information and valuable advice interspersed with ambiguous anecdotes, vague tips and in some cases, frankly unethical and ineffective information. This book provides ethical, scientifically-proven and effective ACTIONABLE information in a step-by-step and easy to understand way. The book starts off by explaining the female perspective on dating. Already, it is different from many dating books I have read (with the exception of probably Art of Seduction). If the reason for this is not immediately apparent, it is quickly explained and thoroughly examined to give men insight into the often misunderstood reasons behind many of women's actions and thoughts. It then goes on to outline the fundamental, underlying principle of attractiveness and the main 5 ways that male attractiveness is determined. I'm not going to sit here and give an entire outline of the book, but all - and I mean all of this book is based on scientific research, mostly from an evolutionary perspective to make the advice given applicable in every culture, for the vast majority of women and with a depth of understanding that is never seen in this sphere. I mean the references section is CHOCK FULL of scientific journal and books, more than any book I have seen including university textbooks. It's actually kind of ridiculous. Another key reason why this book is so good is that it is written with both empathy for men given the hardships of dating and the confusion dating without understanding can be, and a clear firm voice that forces men to take responsibility for their own attractiveness and dating destiny(pretty often chastising them for dumb behaviour common to young men). They incorporate so many things from different sources that will help with dating, but also have a greater impact on just plain quality of life (Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset, benefits of meditation, explanation of why sleep is important, how to have better mental health etc.) My only complaints were a few too many references to one of the authors and his life for my tastes(though I understand the reason why) and though there is always a scientific basis for the advice, the underlying principle isn't fully explained where it is brought up. I imagine this is to keep the book length reasonable and frankly, the authors do make it clear that becoming the man women want will take some independent work. Do yourself and the people around you a favour and buy this book, both for you and struggling men in your life. Make the world a better place. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A "How-To" for Relationships...and Manhood *by J***T on October 26, 2015* Simply put, this book brought me joy, encouragement, motivation, and inspiration. I am grateful that the authors made it available to the world, and especially to all of the young, clueless guys like me. Joy: This book is straightforward, well-researched, and just downright funny. I don't usually think to describe nonfiction books as "page-turners," but this was absolutely a page-turner. I finished this book faster than any other nonfiction book I've ever read. Encouragement: The authors do a great job of respectfully and tactfully acknowledging and validating the fears of their readers--fear of rejection, fear of inadequacy, even fear of intimacy. But they were quick to follow-up with ways to help us identify not only some of the emotional problem(s) responsible for those fears, but also how to adapt our mindsets accordingly to deal with them. I felt like I got a mini emotional therapy session included at no additional charge. Motivation: Why is this book so perfect for men? Because every narrated insight is followed by specific, bulleted action items for translating little immediate steps into big future successes down the line. How can you become more physically attractive? 1, 2, 3, ... How can you demonstrate your intelligence and compassion effectively to women you like? 1, 2, 3, ... How can you plan a first date without absolutely screwing it up? 1, 2, 3, ... It's always easier to be motivated when the task at hand seems manageable. Inspiration: Finally... It is *NOT* filled with gimmicks or shortcuts or cheap tricks. It is filled with common-sense solutions that require genuine effort from the reader. Thus, it is empowering. And I personally found that, in turn, to be inspiring. I've made mistakes in past relationships, but I know what I can and need to do moving forward--and now I know how to pull it off. This book could easily serve as a man's "how to" for life just as well as it serves as a man's "how to" for relationships. And as the author's make abundantly clear, that overlap is by design. And that's why I plan to come back to it many times over, in the days and weeks and months to come. I highly, highly recommend this book. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Surprisingly Informative Book! *by D***A on January 8, 2023* There are tons of dating books out there, and there are tons with really horrible advice. A year ago I was introduced to one of the manosphere's dating books "The Rational Male", and it was jaw-droppingly bad (see my Goodreads review if you want to know more). So, seeing a book with a title like this and one of it's co-authors Tucker Max being infamous for the book "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell", how could I possibly give a book like this 4 stars? Well, don't judge a book by it's cover, nor it's author's name. Right off the bat, the book clarifies what the book is and what it isn't. It's NOT a dating book giving random quick-fix advice. It's NOT a dating book that randomly speculates what women want. Both authors reject the manosphere and pick-up artist books of today. Instead, the aim for this book was to be science-based. Combine the frat boy communication style of Tucker Max with the evolutionary psychology studies of Geoffrey Miller and you got this book. And if there was any maxim for this book, it could easily be: "𝘚𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯'𝘵 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘩*𝘵 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭-𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦!" What I really appreciated about the book is that while the authors offer charisma techniques here and there, it's always surrounded by practical advice and a core emphasis on developing one's character. Unlike books in the manosphere which encourage degrading women to compensate for feelings of inferiority, this book tells men to take responsibility for their inferiority and improve themselves. Unlike books which point to women as being the problem, this book tells men we are the ones creating the problem when we expect women to magically like us while at the same time being lazy, incompetent, unsanitary buffoons! One big takeaway from the book is the author's emphasis on becoming a Tender Defender: a man who can play competitively and fiercely on the sports field while at the same time be the softest and most nurturing husband off the field. It's all goes back to the idea of becoming a balanced, well-rounded man. While I can't say every piece of advice I agreed with or it sounded more like personal opinion than data-driven (e.g. they really push the No Sugar No Grains diet), I learned enough in the book that I'd definitely recommend others check it out too! ## Frequently Bought Together - Mate: Become the Man Women Want - Models: Attract Women Through Honesty - Evolution of Desire --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.vu/products/145587285-mate-become-the-man-women-want](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/145587285-mate-become-the-man-women-want) --- *Product available on Desertcart Vanuatu* *Store origin: VU* *Last updated: 2026-05-19*