--- product_id: 5391295 title: "Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex" brand: "amy t. schalet" price: "VT15063" currency: VUV in_stock: true reviews_count: 10 url: https://www.desertcart.vu/products/5391295-not-under-my-roof-parents-teens-and-the-culture-sex store_origin: VU region: Vanuatu --- # Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex **Brand:** amy t. schalet **Price:** VT15063 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex by amy t. schalet - **How much does it cost?** VT15063 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vu](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/5391295-not-under-my-roof-parents-teens-and-the-culture-sex) ## Best For - amy t. schalet enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted amy t. schalet brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Full description not available ## Images ![Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex - Image 1](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41167RHJmfL.jpg) ![Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex - Image 2](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51zk+oq6C6L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Smart, humane, and USEFUL social science *by B***E on Reviewed in the United States on November 26, 2011* Prof. Schalet's book may be the most useful scholarly work ever written about adolescent sexuality. Her comparison of how parents and society deal with teens and sex in Holland and the United States is all the more significant since both societies have been strongly influenced by Calvinist Protestantism and both cultures prize social equality, individuality, and autonomy.As Schalet explains, Dutch society has developed a template for "normal" and healthy adolescent sexual development that fosters emotionally committed relationships under parents' and adults' watchful gaze. Although she is scrupulously fair in admitting its imperfections, Schalet shows that this template leads to clearly superior health outcomes, since Dutch teens have much lower rates of unintended pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and abortions than do American teens. By contrast, American teenage sexuality is a battleground pitting girls against boys, parents against children, and ungovernable adolescent peer groups against ineffectually authoritarian adult laws and norms. Few of the participants on the American scene seem particularly happy with the way things are. This is where Amy Schalet's book is so valuable: she shows that things could be otherwise.As a piece of scholarship, this book is of sterling quality: it recognizes and respects the cultural and institutional forces at work in each country's approach to adolescent sexuality. Schalet demonstrates that culture shapes behavior and experience powerfully, but that cultural change is also possible: the Dutch approach to sexuality is a recent, post-1960s innovation.The American parents, health professionals, educators, and even teens who will benefit most from this book are those with socially liberal impulses who feel that there must be a better way, but are not entirely sure what a realistic alternative to the status quo might be. For these people, Schalet shows a way forward that is neither the current prohibitionist culture nor a completely permissive libertarian mirror image of the status quo. Her book holds out the possibility of a more humane, mutually respectful, and healthy adolescent experience of sexuality.Staunch social conservatives who read this book will probably come away unconvinced, believing that American adolescents are somehow intrinsically less self-disciplined than their European counterparts. (How is it that "socialism" teaches self-control so effectively?) Or they may believe that making teens "pay for their sins" is morally or religiously appropriate.But for American readers who want a more compassionate--and demonstrably effective--approach to helping adolescents learn about love and sex, Schalet's book is indispensable. The more widely this book is read, the better the prospects for improving our children's lives, home by home and community by community. ### ⭐⭐⭐ Very academic *by A***S on Reviewed in the United States on September 23, 2013* I was looking for a more secular discussion of different cultural approaches to this issue, because I have a soon to be teenager. I am a well educated white middle class mother, living in New York City. I do not really cleave to any religious dogma, and I liked the concept that teen sexuality should be normalized, but I was annoyed that the author kept characterizing the American approach as "dramatizing" it with such phrases as "raging hormones". It had not really occurred to me that I would forbid my son to have his girlfriend overnight, but this book did bring up some interesting aspects of this possibility that I had not considered. For this, I found the book informative. However, it was very academic. As a former almost academic, to me that means that the arguement is presented and re-presented repetitively. I know that this is part of the academic structure, and so when I figured that out, I got what I needed to out of the book, skipped to the conclusion and felt satisfied. Other less lazy or more engaged readers / parents may want to slog through the arguement in it's entirety, but I did not feel the need to do so. ### ⭐⭐⭐ Would recommend to parents *by J***F on Reviewed in the United States on July 21, 2019* Interesting book but overall not a very exciting read. Interesting perspective if you are interested inhuman sexuality. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.vu/products/5391295-not-under-my-roof-parents-teens-and-the-culture-sex](https://www.desertcart.vu/products/5391295-not-under-my-roof-parents-teens-and-the-culture-sex) --- *Product available on Desertcart Vanuatu* *Store origin: VU* *Last updated: 2026-05-12*