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# Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder

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    As a male BPD, I felt discriminated against
  

*by T***N on Reviewed in the United States on April 8, 2012*

THE GOOD: As hard as it is to do so, I must admit that I did find some information in this book helpful. I liked his descriptions of DBT and EMDR, two long-term treatment approaches. I liked, in general, the way he constantly, throughout the book, points out specific behaviors and emotional pitfalls that we, as BPDs, must watch out for and try to correct. I also found some comfort in the generally soothing and compassionate tone in which the book was written.THE BAD: Unfortunately, this book is NOT for BPD men !!! I am aware that most BPDs are women, but does he mean to tell me "too bad", that I'm out of luck ??? Nowhere in the title, or the introduction, is there any mention of the fact that this book is intended only for women ! Once you get to reading a few pages, he suddenly and briefly mentions, like it's no big deal, that he intends to address only women in this book, and that male readers (like myself, who suffer from BPD) may try to replace the female pronouns in the book with male pronouns. That's the best he can do to accommodate male BPD readers !!! When I read that, I went "HUH ???!!! Are you kidding me ?". Then, he simply goes on writing with the assumption that the reader is female, and further assumes that the reader has been physically/sexually abused as a child. This flawed assumption forms the basis, and sets the theme/tone, for the entire book ! In other words, he intended to write this book for a subset of the world's BPD patients - women who were physically/sexually abused as a child, but couldn't be bothered with writing a title that reflects that. He couldn't care less if you're male or weren't abused as a child. For example, he'll talk about your "menstrual periods" and refer to your "male lovers", and assume your stereotypical female qualities. What if you're a guy ??? You have to skip that paragraph, and move on to the next paragraph, hoping that it's a bit more general than the previous one !Another flawed assumption is that you are someone who jumps from relationship to relationship. What if you're someone who has a hard time finding ONE partner ??? What if you're a loner like me ??? Well, you're out of luck...too bad ! I was NOT ABLE TO IDENTIFY with any of the characters in the book, and this was a HUGE disappointment for me. As BPD patients reading a BPD book, we all want to be able to identify with the characters being described in the book, and I was unable to do so, to the slightest extent, with this book.One other thing that made me VERY uncomfortable while reading this book, is that, while describing his female patients, he gives too much importance to details that make him seem unprofessional and almost perverted. For example, he seems to focus too much on the clothes worn by his (married) patients and how revealing they are and how seductive some of his patients are, describes his patients as though they are his lovers, and talks about some of their sexual encounters. It gives me the impression that he has fantasies of sleeping with his patients, and he is subtly expressing that in his book, through his descriptions of his patients. If he has fantasies, fine (he's only human...I get that), but why couldn't he leave them out of this book ?!!! This sort of thing persists throughout the material in the book, and made me feel VERY uncomfortable.About ME: I am male, 28 years old, have had BPD + Dysthymia for about 10 years now, loner ... very limited relationships with women and almost non-existent social life. Bullied horribly as a child, abused (emotionally and verbally) as a young adult by "family". Only recently discovered that I'm BPD and am looking for a book with compassion, that would address the general BPD sufferer population (including men !!!) - a book, that, as I was reading it, would make me feel as if it was talking to me. I was VERY disappointed with this book !Bottom line: This book is not for BPD men. Male BPD readers will be disappointed and feel discriminated against, although the title of the book does not suggest such a discrimination. If you are a female BPD who was abused as a child, this book is for you !!! Only a subset of the BPD population is addressed by this book.

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    An easy, succinct summary of interactions with BPD clients and descriptions of the treatment of each case
  

*by C***L on Reviewed in the United States on October 19, 2013*

"Lost in the Mirror" presents the experiences of a variety of clients through the imaginary character, Sara. Despite being a combination of discrete interactions in real life, the story of Sara flows smoothly from one subject area of BPD to the next. The book clearly describes the diagnostic criteria for BPD, while highlighting other diagnostic symptoms of the disorder through the narrative of Sara. This allows for both a empirical and emotional approach to the subject matter for the reader.Dr. Moskovitz also describes the popular therapies available and utilized to treat BPD. He also lightly touches upon the medications that might be added to treatment to ease anxiety, depression, and other Axis I disorders that could handicap therapy. I thought the chapter meant for therapists, friends and family of individuals coping with BPD was insightful, and whether the reader is the affected or the affecting, it is good to be reminded that clear boundaries and rules need to be established for everyone involved. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing was an entirely novel approach for me. I had not heard about it before this book!The pages are clean and clear, and this is a very easy read. The text is direct and not overly romantic. I definitely recommend this book for individuals trying to get an efficient understanding of BPD, available treatments, and how it might affect others!

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    would have been wonderful 20 years ago
  

*by J***L on Reviewed in the United States on December 8, 2011*

The Author obviously has spent a great deal of his practice working with BPD. I found it disconcerting that he as a therapist had such strong reactions to his patients. Unlike other reviewer's i didnt find him particularily sensitive to persons with BPD. In fact, i was a little upset that he seemed to blame some of his responses on their manipulations! I think he should have expected that . After all, their in treatment for a reason. The book reads like a badly written psychological novel and by no means are the example's he gives ( compliations) of many of his patients indicative of  BPD. He tells us of two people and they are extreme examples and seemed to be cured quite easily and dramatically.Twenty five years ago, this book would have been a god send. Today its archaic to me. Please look at some of the newer books ( this was written in the early 90's i believe) most specifically, Overcoming borderline personality disorder which is cutting edge information on the disorder and is valuable to both the person struggling with it, and those who either love or treat that person.

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