When Am I Going to Be Happy?: How to Break the Emotional Bad Habits That Make You Miserable

This is by far the best self help book I have ever read and can even imagine existing. I was having a rough patch, and bought 3 self help books from Amazon, I started one, it bored me, I moved to this, read it super fast, recommended it to everyone I know, and now feel like my other self help books don't even need to be read! This book is not boring like most, and it doesn't have a lot of boring and tedious exercises. It's a super easy read, entertaining and makes SO much sense!These lessons should be taught in school. I've been seeing people on the street and thinking, "They need to read my book!" It addresses esteem issues, social issues, phobias, and on and on. The stuff in the book is quite easy to apply too. It's great. Get it. Get it for everyone you know who isn't perfectly happy. It changed my life in a way that I don't think many other self help books or even therapy could.

This book truly helped to change my life. I got it as a gift from an old girlfriend of mine (I'm a man, 32 years old). I don't want to go in to all that it can do for you but after reading just the first chapter I felt something I have not felt in a long time...hope... followed by extreme happiness.This handbook helps to explain why the people around you act the way they do and why your own behaviors and bad habits are causing you undeserved misery. The premise is that your own behaviors are really just habits, and "just as habits can be learned they can be unlearned." This coupled with the explanations of behaviors of those around you helps the reader gain hope that there is a future out there, and happiness is right around the corner.It's true that this book is written from a woman's point of view and many situations that the book explains were not applicable to my own situation. But those scenarios that were applicable were dead on and really truly helped me understand why I was feeling the way I was feeling. Once you understand the reason for your unhappiness then you can work on the solution.I have never read a book that has caused me to feel the way I did after I read this book. 1000 thank you's to the author and I encourage everyone out there to read this book if you feel hopeless, depressed, or genuinely unhappy or dis-satisfied in life.

Very helpful to read as a self help book. Some good ideas and thoughts and I would definitely recommend it to anyone who has struggled with ongoing depression.

The author addresses psychological issues we can all identify with and experience. She gives very good examples, analyzes what goes on in our minds to lead us in unhealthy directions, and offers tangible advice to help us get back on track. Very insightful.

I bought this book to attempt to help myself out of, you guessed it, my bad habits. I tend to get jealous, angry, and extremely bitter during the course of a day, to the point where I start taking my rage out in the form of cold shoulders to my friends and family. So I bought this to help me attempt to fix this.What I found is more of the author's actual patient's stories (under an annoymous name of course) than actual steps to fix my habits. For the Inferiority chapter, for example, the author explains how the patient had an abusive husband who put all of his faults on her, making her feel inferior. She goes on to tell how she overcame this. But I'm not her, I don't have an abusive husband, so I can't really connect to this example. And there's not much beyond that.The author also is in a way using a broken record technique to enforce her advice on you. You read one chapter, then in the next, she basically states the main idea of the previous chapter and applies it to this one. It gets very repitious.Call me mislead, but I thought this book would help me break my habits, not tell me how others visited a phychiatrist and overcame their own.

It took a while to come but it's in new condition no complaints

This book addresses all of the emotional bad habits I have carried for 40+ years. It is a no nonsense approach to looking honestly at the baggage we carry with us in reaction to events &/or experiences weighing us down and preventing us from living to the fullest. It shows us that, like all aquired habits, they can be undone with practice and dilligent behavior change. Some are obviously more challenging than others, but is a matter of chosing to change. Do YOU want it badly enough? I intend to re-read chapters as I chose specific habits to irradicate. Go for it!

This book was written in 1988. It's so outdated in my opinion, its broken up into stories and scenarios

This book, like Dr. Russianoff's previously published book 'Why Do I Think I Am Nothing Without A Man', offers sound advice to women who wonder why they're miserable; namely, that they and only they can do something about it! This knowledge comes as both a burden and a relief. There is work to be done - changing emotional bad habits such as obeying cultural 'supposed-to's', challenging feelings of inferiority and becoming more assertive - as well as, most importantly, realising that only we can do it, but the results will be well worth the effort. A most uplifting read!

自分はいつ幸せになれるのだろう？いろいろな恋愛や仕事、人間関係の中で、たくさんの失恋や失敗や幸福感を経験しながらも、ずっと「いつ幸せになれるのか？」と思うのは当然のこと。それをこの著者は「愚問」とばっさりと切っています。というのは、いつ幸せになれるのか、ということを問うよりも、まず、「自分にその幸せを遠ざけてしまうおかしな言動や態度がないのか？」を探すほうが近道で賢明だ、ということをこの本の中で言っています。「いつ幸せになれるのか？」と問いながらも幸せを遠ざけてしまっている女性たちの性格を分析し、タイプごとにわけ、それぞれにあった行動の変え方、考え方の変え方を丁寧にやりやすい方法で教えてくれています。アメリカの大学の講義で実際に女性たちにこのタイトルの教鞭をふるった著者の書く内容には1ページ1ページ納得がいきました。お勧めです！！