How To Set Up An FLR Kindle Edition

This is, without a doubt, one of the best books about FLR's - or relationships in general - that we have ever had the privilege to read.Mistress Ivey's tone is warm, friendly, and relatable. She has obviously lived what she preaches, and it shows. From the beginning, she stresses the importance of communication, openness, honesty, and trust, and recognizes how very hard they are to achieve sometimes while still being essential. She gives real-world examples of things you may be worried about and how to address them. She relates many points back to her own personal life, and isn't afraid to tell us about her own concerns/missteps/successes in her personal relationship, in order to help us, the readers, grow along with her. She truly recognizes the emotional aspect of setting up a female-led relationship in a world where it is simply assumed that the male is the leader by default. She talks about guilt and fear, and how to overcome them, Her patient, caring tone, combined with her positive and respectful attitude and her thorough coverage of the material, helped clarify so many things for me, and I'm so grateful for having read this book.There are several quizzes in this book. DO THEM ALL WITH YOUR PARTNER! These are not just useless Cosmo quizzes. The discussion that will come from it is invaluable. Start with the first chapter. Figure out the relationship style that you want, and find out what your partner wants too. This makes sure that you'll be on the same page for everything else that follows. Do all the quizzes, and make sure you each answer separately. Talk about the similarities, and how you can focus on those, and talk about the differences, and see if they're things that you can work out - you may not be as far apart as you think! It's so hard sometimes to open up about topics like relationships and sex, and the questions presented here really help get the ball rolling and make sure that you're working together instead of against each other.After the fundamentals and the quizzes, the book moves into different examples of things to do in an FLR, as well as adding aspects of BDSM if you so desire. The examples are wonderful, and if anything, Mistress Ivey's writing style becomes even more personable and direct. Reading this book is a breath of fresh air in a world of mostly mediocre (or worse) books on FLR's.I have read through this book several times now. My slave has read through it even more. He constantly refers back to it, going back to different chapters, finding new things and bringing them to my attention. We've worked through more FLR issues with this one book alone than with everything else we've ever purchased, combined. And still we find new things that help us even more. This book has improved our relationship in a way that nothing else has.The only concerns I have are extremely minor and not even worth knocking a tenth of a star off, let alone a whole star. First, as Mistress Ivey says, her relationship is further down the M/s continuum than most others, so some of the examples may be a little extreme for first-time people. For anyone who finds this to be the case, remember, as she says, that any examples she gives aren't requirements to be followed. Some things may take time to grow into; some things may never end up being your cup of tea. And that's okay. Take what you need and leave the rest. Second, the ending is a little abrupt - a conclusion of some sort would have been appreciated. And finally, there are some spelling and syntax errors (as you can tell simply by looking at the cover image). Having an editor look it over would really help get it to a truly professional level. (I gladly offer my slave's services for this - he has an extensive background in editing. If this is something you would like, Mistress Ivey, please let me know so a new edition can be even more perfect.)Simply put, there is no reason you should not own this book. If you're in an FLR, buy this book. If you've never been in one but are considering it, buy this book. Even if you're not interested in FLR, but are looking to work through some issues in the relationship (and would like some interesting ideas for the bedroom!), buy this book. If I could give it ten stars out of five, I would. BUY THIS BOOK.

I found this to be an accessible book, good for people wondering what a "female led relationship" (FLR) is, or if it might be right for them. The short version of what is an FLR is, a relationship in which the woman leads or controls certain areas. Which areas she leads, and to what extent, will vary, and figuring out which areas and to what extent is one of the things this book can help you do. One thing that is especially useful is chapter 6, in which there are two quizzes, one for the man and one for the woman, which cover a range of topics to assess how ready you both are for an FLR. The book contains a lot of good background information and tips about the importance of honesty and communication when creating and living this kind of relationship. The book does have a few grammatical errors but they didn't take away from the value.

My wife and I are experimenting with FLR. This book had some helpful ideas and is much less expensive than the other options I found on the internet. It is a little heavy on the sexual stuff and the author is more intensely involved than we want to be but for the price the book is worth reading if this is an interest of yours.

Ms. Ivey (Author) is spot on what most men are too intimidated to share with their wives. Highly recommend!!!

Maybe a good book for absolute beginners. If you're still at a phase where things like this are very sexy and exciting, you'll probably at least be titillated. If you are a very conventional, straight, largely vanilla female, this book may help you become more comfortable with the idea of an FLR.If you're looking for a serious, detailed guide that gets down to the nitty gritty of what it's like to live in an FLR in and out of the bedroom, this isn't it. If you're looking for an examination of the psychology and love in an FLR, this isn't it. If you've gotten past the novelty stage of femdom and are trying to take it out of the bedroom, but need more than sexual excitement to make it work, this guide isn't for you.I'm sure it's for someone, it just wasn't for me. I found the described archetypes strange, the gender politics of it tone-deaf. This book seemed written with a couple for whom femdom is still new and exciting in mind- of course it is a guide to setting up an FLR, so it shouldn't be for experts. But, it seemed much more about sexual fantasy than it was about practicing a female-led-relationship. If you need some encouragement to get out of your shell as a female in the bedroom, you might like it.

When I first stumbled across the FLR lifestyle, I was intrigued. I had been asking her permission to go to the bathroom for ten years (due to her getting upset about me stepping out once), and looking at the decisions, she was making all of them eventually. Sure, we battled it out 20% of the time, but ultimately, we did what she wanted. She also complained that I wasn't doing enough, even though I did more than half of the chores. I saw FLR as a way to skip the fighting step and streamline our relationship. I looked at 100+ websites and about a dozen books. This book stood out; I especially like the Captain/first mate relationship concept. We keep it pretty vanilla, but as this book shows, one may dial in whatever they want. My wife is much more relaxed now that she rests and does hobbies when there aren't any decisions. When decisions come up, she can focus on them without the distraction of chores and pull me in to help with research and brainstorming. We were virtually living an FLR lifestyle for years, so the transition into a contracted FLR was not too hard.

Simple et agréable à lire.Étapes très simple à suivre

Very convincing tale of transforming someone into a mere animal. Surprisingly enough, castration is not described though it seems understated. Cannibalism either.

Mi è piaciuto... Uno stile di vita Fandom che va contro natura, a livello patologico quasi ma non estremista come altri libri che ho letto su questo argomento. In gioco di coppia che può funzionare... L'ho sperimentato parzialmente per poco tempo ma possibile se il carattere della coppia lo consente.

An excellent read very informative. Gets people thinking about how they want in their relationship set up, good advice and questionnaires that will help you to identify what it is you each want and what your comfortable with. Lots of basic information on techniques and suggestions on how to apply them to get the inexperienced started.

A very good Guide. Normaal explanation, easy setup. Step by step and your woman is the bos. Don't start with focus on sex but other importance tings.