Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You: Second Edition

Though this review is not terribly deep or detailed in nature, I do find myself eager to submit my first-impression thoughts. This book arrived today and am literally unable to put it down. I am caught wondering if my own journal and attempts at relationship repair have been "bugged" by these authors. I'm both exhilerated and exhausted at the real language ANSWERS (beautifully scripted) to so many of the CONFOUNDING anguishing questions/issues that seem to have embeded themselves in the most beautiful relationship I've ever known. FINALLY!!! Its liberating at the moment to have such amazing candor alongside understanding. There were many articulate reviews that prompted my buying this book, much more in-depth than what I offer here, and so I applaud those deserved accolades for this miracle book that feels (at the moment) like redemption of all the beautiful parts of our life that fears and control have been destroying. Thank you to these amazing authors.

Loved it. Great book on relationships. Margaret Paul's work is such a gift. Check out her other books too, especially on Inner Bonding.

This is one of my top books i enjoyed and it was eye-opening. It has helped with the resentment from growing up in a family that did not validate, recognize or acknowledge their children. We were there to make Mom happy. This is a book to read if you think that you have to BE a certain way in order to get love, attention, or approval. It does not Blame anybody, which was important to me. It explains that maybe you didn't grow up with horrible parents, but that your parents might have their own issues and you don't have to continue the same pattern with your spouse, children, friends, co-workers, etc. Wonderful book!

This opened my eyes to many things that were wrong on bothsides to a relationship that failed, as well as the steps we both should have taken to have had the relation grow and flourish. I will be reading it a second time through, as I am sure that it will help install in me tools for a future relationship. Tools that will ensure that I maintain being the best I can be, and not sacrificing myself. In the future I am sure I will have a healthy and happy relationship with my partner. I highly recommend this book to everyone.

I prefer the first version of the book. The second edition leaves out very helpful questions at the end of the book. Some years after writing the first edition, the authors divorced. Yes, life happens. I still find the book useful & many of the concepts are included in both editions. I am a "senior" & enjoying a new relationship. This book is enlightening at any age.

I read this book first in 1986. Misplaced my copy so ordered another. It is as valid now as ever. Some truths never change. Great book to help understand human relationships with loved ones and oneself. I highly recommend this to lovers and parents. I had hoped for the updated edition but was sent the first edition. Still valid though and no complaints.

There was some good advice in this book, but you kind of had to take it with a grain of salt since the authors divorced. They couldn't even put into practice their own principles! Then toward the end of the book they posited that it is ok to step out of your marriage if you are being authentic and honest with your partner! That's when I was done with it, and threw it away.

The book is very informative and clearly outlines the process for working through recurring inner-conflicts. It may be difficult to do the work without the assistance of a mentor or therapist due to the layers of emotion and our human tendency to assign blame rather than take personal responsibility for our issues. The work also has a deeply spiritual aspect and is aligns with 12-step principles. There was not a provision for past-life work but, anybody w/ that inclination could easily incorporate the process to include prior life patterns.

Having read various books on conflict resolution and communication, I found this very thought provoking and helped uncover destructive behaviours that you may think are helpful. Great for a couple to go through

This is probably the fourth book I bought about developing a relationship with your inner child (I mean ME developing a relationship with MY inner child, or YOU developing a relationship with YOUR inner child) and it got me to understand why I didnt have one already, and guides you into the process, in an accessible way which is easy to read and more common sense than psychobabble.

Fantastic book easy to understand and follow, if you have ever experienced being in a relationship and feel you are the only one doing all the giving, or maybe feel the true you is fading due to people pleasing then this book will help to giud you onto the happier path

If you keep reacting to certain situations in your relationship with anger, fear or distance, it’s most likely to protect yourself. Instead, you can understand why you react that way and learn from it.Very interesting, but requires a high level of impulse control, which – depending on the level of emotionality – may be nearly impossible.

Perfect condition. Better than anticipated.