His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
B**R
Excellent to Read While Dating, too!
Let me start by stating that I am a divorced woman, not because of an affair, but due to an unfortunate combination of accident and mental illness that befell my former husband. Prior to the incidents, our marriage was great, so I considered myself to be an expert on how to have a successful marriage, since it wasn't for any of the "usual" reasons that we divorced. My first experience with dating after marriage made me realize that even if I know what it theoretically takes to make a marriage work, I had very little knowledge about how to find the right partner.So, why would I read a book like this in my situation? Because my sister told me to! Okay, maybe that's a silly reason, but it really does come down to it. On the advice of a friend, she read this book and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura just before she met, dated, and then married her husband. She recommended them to me because they helped her to have the right mindset of how to handle the balance of "his needs" and "her needs" that comes up in any relationship. She was able to make sure that she recognized and met his needs, and then communicated to him what her needs were.After reading this book, I agree with her that it is a great book to read for anyone who wants to be in a relationship and to make it work. Knowing and respecting what is important to one's partner is essential, especially because so often men and women have different needs. Having this knowledge of these needs is incredibly helpful as I venture out into the dating world again, because it helps me to have a great framework to build my evaluation of potential partners from. I'm currently in a relationship, and it has definitely helped me to keep perspective. These concepts will be helpful in marriage, but they are also helpful before the marriage happens.It's a great book, and an interesting read with great information.
N**7
At the start of our journey... we have read this book...
This is a really special book, and I am hoping that Amazon continues to make this product available for purchase. I bought two hard cover copies and was a little distressed to see that it is already temporarily out of stock! Really hoping it becomes available soon because I have a LIST of persons to give this to. I am currently engaged and my dad borrowed this book from our church library for me to read. Wasn't too interested at first, but then I began to read this book (Had never heard of it before)... and was so surprised and gutted at the same time. Wow - this drove so many truths right down into my being - it was amazing how much I felt that this was something both my fiance and I NEEDED... And we have read it together and spoken about it countless times. Also, in addition to dealing with our own issues, when our friends are going through rough times in their marriages, we can actually UNDERSTAND the difficulties they face. Marriage is no easy relationship - and that is an understatement when we look all around us. Thanks to the author of this book we are going into our marriage later this year, with our eyes open to many things that we did not understand before - matters that seemed vague and seemingly trivial are not so AT ALL. For me personally, it was like the pieces of a puzzle coming together - in my 35 years of existence as a human being and some previous relationship experiences - there are some things here that became much clearer and things I wish I had understood before.Dr. Harley shows the five top-order emotional needs of men and women and how each can meet the other's needs, in the context of 'affair-proofing' your marriage. Also, what stood out for me was that these needs are VERY different and therefore requires understanding, patience and WORK. But what you can begin to experience after reading this book, understanding the concepts, accepting and applying them, can make your relationship PHENOMENAL. My fiance and I have become closer and our interactions with each other have significantly improved our relationship (more love 'deposits' in our love banks - go read it for yourself!). Also, I found some of Dr. Harley's videos on youtube.com: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGjriUcN39Q - This is the first in a six video series. I sent these to a couple of my colleagues, and they have nothing but the most outstanding reviews to give on these videos and want to purchase the book.Thank you Amazon for making this available!... and please... we want more! :)
B**S
His Needs Her Needs
Love Busters and His Needs Her Needs are the best two books for any marriage at any stage. Old, Middle aged or Young. I have purchased these books and have given them away to so many people. I wish my husband and I had these books when we were first married .... it would have made a WORLD of difference. Instead, we just handled our problems by trial and error when we could have had the "proper language" to be able to "understand" each other and our differences. These books give you the "tools" to be able to communicate without fighting. If each person has a willing heart and wants to keep their marriage read these books... follow the advice and you will be amazed. There is only one prerequisite and that is BOTH spouses need to read the book(s) and discuss as they read. If only one reads it and tries to explain the concept to the other it really doesn't have the same impact. Both have to be willing to put the time in and work at it. It'll pay off a hundred-fold! If you are interested in more than just reading these books look into Dynamic Marriage classes. These classes use the His Needs Her Needs book and you will love them. I use the advice in both of these books WEEKLY as I receive many of my friends complaining about a situation in their marriage. There's just about nothing it doesn't cover. Our nation is falling apart because our families are falling apart with divorce. His Needs Her Needs helps keep a couple together so they will not fall prey to the "falling out of love" phase and "I never should have married this person" cliche'. They are practical and worth every minute of your time.
C**R
Best book I've ever read.
I love this book, so many practical details.
M**L
Perfecto
Es un libro sin desperdicio pienso que toda pareja debería leerlo al menos una vez en su vida.
E**.
Pflichtlektüre für alle Paare
Nicht nur für jene Paare, die eine Affäre verhindern oder abwenden wollen, sondern für alle, die ihre Beziehung nachhaltig verbessern und bereichern möchten. Mein Mann und ich studieren dieses Buch förmlich seit einem halben Jahr! Wir haben enorm viel daraus mitgenommen.Jedes Kapitel enthält zum Schluss Fragen für Sie, Ihn und beide. Wir haben beim Beantworten der Fragen sehr viele aufrichtige Gespräche geführt und uns viel besser kennen gelernt. Auch die weiterführenden Ressourcen, die der Autor anführt, lohnen sich immens. Wir sind begeistert und möchten das Buch jährlich erneut durchblättern.
Z**O
Amazing
This book is helping my husband and I a lot. This book was recommended by our Pastor for Pre marital counselling and has been an eye opener.
K**I
I love this book!
It definitely shows you life from a different realistic perspective. I got some tips from this book that I will carry with me forever. Totally worth reading!
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