Data, a Love Story: How I Cracked the Online Dating Code to Meet My Match

As someone who's been on and off online sites, I often thought about how the sites match people. It never dawned upon me, though, to hack the system. That's more or less what Amy Webb did and the results are fantastic.Equal parts informative, witty, and humorous, Webb takes us through herr ultimately successful journey on how she found her perfect match. I appreciate the fact that she included much of her methodology in the notes; had she gone too deep too soon with her approach, she probably would have lost me.Excellent read.

The book is completely outdated and based on the author’s experience with online dating in 2005. She also logged in ( while already married) in 2012. Both of those periods completely miss the current dating landscape mostly consisting of dating apps. Also the code that ‘she cracked’ was by creating 10 fake male profiles and learning how the ‘popular’ girls communicate online so that she can emulate their style and profiles. Hardly ‘cracking the code’. Her memoir capturing a sad time in her life is poignant and her writing style is fun - but this is hardly a ‘how to’ online dating in 2019

I thought this writer was a bit full of herself when she blasted her dates for their so-called failings. Really, going into the bathroom to blog about her dates in real time? Was she actually looking to meet someone, or was she trying to write a book? If it was the latter, then the entire premise of the book is false. I'd be curious to see what her dates thought of her. She lambasts her "dates" for lying on their profile, but in the next paragraph admits she lies about her smoking habits. She rates her "dates" on grammar, but in the next page says she "could care less" about something the date says. Really-shouldn't that be "couldn't"? Or was she ambivalent about the level of caring? So, it's an interesting read on internet dating, (which should have an expose written by someone impartial because it certainly is a frontier not to be believed) and some of the statistics are fascinating, but if you have to "game" the system to meet your match, perhaps you're trying too hard.

Finding myself single at 58 I hardly thought a 30-something was going to be able to relate to my situation but I was keen to "game" the system if possible after a year of dates from hell (one of which included a show-and-tell of his colostomy bag 5 minutes before the meal was served. NOT KIDDING!). Not only was it completely relatable, I couldn't put it down because it was the most I'd laughed in a year!

The author wrote about her experiences as a single woman and finding, meeting, and marrying her now-husband, using online dating. I found the half that spoke strictly about her experiences to be engaging, and I enjoyed it. However, the part that discusses her strategies and her belief that they will help you didn't really work for me. I've dabbled in online dating (leading to two long-term relationships), and a lot of her strategies were specific to JDate, more than borderline neurotic (Excel spread sheets?), and honestly out of date with the current sites and practices. The basic message, to reflect and seek out what you truly want in a partner, set boundaries while dating, and using attractive pictures of yourself, are good, but kind of no-brainers, and they take a back seat to the crazy strategizing.

Amy did all the work for the rest of us! I spent 3 months on Match with limited success and did not renew my subscription, but I remained interested in the potential of online dating. I am in my 60's and opportunities to meet people in my age group are limited. After reading Amy's book, I realized many of the errors I had made . She may be younger, but the game is the same,no matter the age ! Anyway, her book is easy reading. Her observations and experiences are delightful and true ! Her research and conclusions are very on point and it is well worth following her conclusions and recommendations . No, I have not yet tried online dating again. I just finished Amy's book and I need to make a weighted list of what I want in a companion, get my hair properly styled, get some great, happy , approachable pictures of myself and write my new , super profile !! I recommend this book.

You don't have to be a romantic or an online dater or single to enjoy this book. I picked it up after hearing the author on the TED Radio Hour. What piqued my interest was her methodology. She spent weeks creating an elaborate mathematically-based system to help her avoid awful online dates. As someone who would rather put her hand in a fire than spend an hour with some random jack-wagon who won't stop talking about his awkwardly small feet (thing that happened), I whole-heartedly endorse what she did. If you are really looking for love online, this book will give you hope. If you just like reading about online dates that are as bad - if not worse - than the online dates that have driven you to consider monastic life, this is a great read. I you like spreadsheets, this book is also for you.

The approach described in the book may not work for everyone, and the romantic backstory is a bit unbelievable but it's still a fun and thought-provoking read.

I saw Amy's Ted Talk and had to buy the book. When done reading the last page, all I could say was "wow". She is totally inspiring...using her strengths, supreme logic and smarts to find the elusive needle in the on line dating haystack.The book is an easy read and on one level am amazing love story of a very different kind. Particularly because it is all true. I believe that you could not only apply her concept is the 700 to 1500 point perfect partner to a stranger on a dating sight, but also to a present relationship that you are not sure is exactly ideal. I think her principles would be a good way of evaluating relationship if you set up your variables carefully.She lost me on some of the really technical math but those bits are mostly in the appendix and not integral to the book. Also, I now have a huge appreciation for a "well crafted spreadsheet" and plan to pay more attention to applying Excel in my life! I highly recommend this book to anyone who likes happy endings or who is looking to find find a completely logical way to find that needle.

I met my husband of 25 years the 'old fashioned way' (he was my girlfriend's boyfriend's friend LOL). His friend had amateur DJ equipment set up in his basement so we spent the night listening to all kinds of 60's, 70's and 80's music and discovered we had a lot in common.With the advent of the internet and the immense popularity of online dating, I was curious to read an account of this modern day ritual to see how it differs from the conventional dating of yesteryear.If you are interested in how to proceed, how it works and what results you can expect from online dating, then this is the book for you, and you get the author's real-life love story as a bonus to boot.

La experiencia de una mujer judía americana que quiere casarse y tener hijos sobre su búsqueda del marido ideal en internet. Es una visión interesante de como organizar tu búsqueda con las herramientas actuales que ofrece internet para encontrar pareja, pero hay mucho relleno: entra en una cantidad de detalles sobre su vida y lo que hace, casi minuto a minuto, que no aportan nada a la historia. Es un enfoque interesante del que sacas más bien la idea que si eres organizada, pones en claro tus ideas y deseos y te ciñes a tus propias normas, conseguirás lo que te propones. Y el que no sepa cómo hacerlo puede encontrar en el libro un ejemplo de cómo hacerlo. En inglés.

Ms. Webb's disastrous blind dates remind us of just how bad the dating scene can be. The advice on how to market oneself on on-line or in newspaper ads was useful. Gaming the dating systems would be a lot of work and could be expensive. Her story is a 'case of one' (her experience) so I am not convinced that her method was the key to her success.