The Power of the Pussy: Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More! (Dating and Relationship Advice for Women - Get What You Want ... Respect, Commitment, and More!) (Volume 1)

I AM A MAN who bought this book as a gift for a female friend who does not have an Amazon account. I read the book because the title caught my eye and because I wanted to determine if the author was on target in terms of defining men, etc. Overall, I think it's a good read, funny, and to the point. I didn't agree with everything because I think the book could have shined a better light on men, but I will agree with one statement that stuck out for me on page 129 under the heading MEN LIE ABOUT LOVE. It's true that men sometimes lie about love. If we tell you that we love you and we act otherwise, then we are probably lying. Have I done this in the past? Not me because I have only loved one woman and I told her that. She knows it. But we men (depending on how full of shit we are) will lie to get some pussy. My advice to all women is that if we act contrary to what we say, something is probably up and we have something (perhaps other girls) on our minds. If we are with you and we get lots of texts during our time together, then something might be up. We don't always think with our hearts, which is why men are said to be from Mars and women are from Venus. This is just my little input. Also, since a lot of women will probably be reading this review I want to tell as many women as possible something important. Please, please, please tell us men what you want. Don't expect us to guess what you want in life and in bed. Tell us what you want. The dilemma for centuries between men and women is that women don't tell us what they want. My girlfriend is the same way and all the women before that. If you want to have sex, then tell us. If you want to go to a certain place, then tell us. If you want us to rock your world, then tell us. As I speak among my male friends their biggest problem with women is that they don't tell us what they want clearly enough and as often enough. If you want to be happy with us, then give us a few hints and tell us exactly what is on your mind. It really frustrates us to keep wondering and guessing. Ok, well this is my review. I am going to give this book to my friend and hope she gets a bang out of it.

So far I have read a plethora of relationship books and this one is at the top of my list. It's a quick read about 225 pages, all you need is the first four chapters! This book is raw! Kara King tells it like it is. If you are sensitive and have a low self esteem toughen up, get a therapist. She lets you know that lack of confidence in no way will attract a man. If you want to know what attracts and deters men from your path, this is the book for you. For those who have read only a few pages of this book and believe Kara King is a man basher, you didn't read far enough into the book. I highly suggest chapter 6 in which the author tells us ladies that we tend to over look the good guys for shallow reasons. I have to say she's right, both sexes are guilty of choosing a partner with looks over brains. I do however suggest that you read more than just one book to empower yourself. Broadening your knowledge and communication skills is what will lead you to finding the right man. As of now I have many dates lined up and i'm very much pursued by the opposite sex. I owe it all to developing self confidence and researching. The following books should be read as well: Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey, Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. If you feel you need to work on your communication skills with the opposite sex you must read Men are from Mars Women are from Venus by John Gray. Not only will your communication skills improve you will gain insight as to why men act the way they do. What makes them tick and most of all how to complement a man with positive affirmations, this builds your confidence and his! He's happy your happy, there will be less nagging involved and more peace, I promise! I also feel in todays technologically advanced society females are easily available, when access should be limited to the opposite sex. Learn how to handle yourself via text messaging, e-mailing, and of course social networking sites such as Facebook. A great book that covers these topics would be Not Your Mothers Rules By Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. And finally if you feel you have been duped, played, etc you need to look for red flags and this advice goes to both men and women. There are people out there who are quite successful at playing others and you need to be capable of detecting such types. They get away with it because their experts and have been for quite some time. I recommend The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. Not everyone is out to get you but be aware of those who carry these unique personality traits. Detecting BS is half the battle. As knowledgeable as I am now I use my wisdom to the best of my abilities and I do not lead others on. Once you acquire the needed confidence do not forget to treat others the way you would like to be treated. If someone no longer interest you, make sure you state it kindly. Good luck to all of you!

The older I get, the more old fashioned I seem to become. Twenty years ago, I would've been furious after reading a book like this. Now, I totally understand it. This is a must read for every straight woman. It's nice to see someone advocating waiting for sex who isn't a religious nut expecting people to wait until marriage, which is impractical and ill-advised (sometimes there are serious sexual incompatibilities that should be addressed before a legally binding relationship is undertaken). But it seems that our culture has gone in the complete opposite direction with things like the "third-date rule." Who benefits from that? Not the sex who is vulnerable to pregnancy and more at risk for STD's, that's for sure. Women should wait until they're reasonably sure they have a good man. That takes time. You can't know someone in three dates. The author really knows her stuff and I think the book should be read with an open mind. In our sexually liberal culture, some of the stuff in the book may be un-pc, but that doesn't make it incorrect. There usually is a negative reason why a woman has sex really early on in the relationship. It's not a criticism of women. It's an observation. And women deserve better than to be used for sex repeatedly by guys. We like to think that in 2013 people are more evolved, but it really is as simple as "guys don't like sluts." Don't get mad at the author or other women. It's the men themselves who are saying that. Yes, men are in fact scummy enough to encourage women to have sex by saying a bunch of liberal, free-wheeling stuff, and then turn around and think she's a skanky ho for having sex. Again, don't blame other women for pointing this out. It's the guys who are doing it. The reason I gave this book four stars and not five is that it's self-published, and the lack of professional editing does get in the way of the message of the book, I think. I wasn't bothered or offended by the strong language or modern slang at all. But good editing would've made this book even better. The author writes well. There's a nice pace to the book, but the few grammatical slip-ups were jarring to me.

I'm starting chapter seven... With her book's easy-to-read format, simple logic, and easy-to-understand concepts, King leads me through the dark and scary world of dating men. She makes it less scary by framing dating as a fun game - where you are always the winner and you leave no excuses for yourself or other men to waste your time. I thought the title was super cheesy and the idea of being a female player offensive, but after reading a sample I put my beliefs and preconceptions of "proper" dating aside. Sometimes life is a game, and if it has been set up against you, learning how to win (or at least protect yourself) is how to love yourself. Life has been set up against me from the beginning - I entered life as an accessory, constantly an extension to someone else, expected only to waste time with people who only wanted to use me up. They saw no potential in me, no value as a human being, and decided to direct my life for me. I had a mother, but she was more of a brainwashing, inappropriately needy, immature, using kind. After finally running away from her, I was all by myself without the knowledge nor the tools to deal with other predators. After four years of being used up by people, strangers, others who you would believe as trustworthy as an adolescent, I was so burnt out. Why were people this evil/selfish/cunning/cold blooded/whatever? After staying in two horrible, abusive "using" relationships to survive, I owed it to myself for too long to help myself. How I got to the self-help book "The Power of the Pussy?" By the conversations of strippers and disgruntled women. Reading the first few chapters was like looking back at my whole life on a computer screen. I was shocked to learn how manipulative and wrong some people are. But I let King's advice sit in my mind for a few days. I could be an honest, ethical female player. I have to protect myself, and by cherishing all of my values, accomplishments and talents that were disregarded by my mom and prior boyfriends, I'm so effing worth someone special! I started valuing myself, taking care of myself, not wasting my time, energy, and emotions to the undeserving, and letting myself LIVE after implementing King's advice. Her words are the prescription to my pain - she's the mother/sister figure who cares about me and gives it to me straight that the world is full of awful people who will play you like a pawn to your expense. Not only does she illuminate this, she gives examples, scenarios, methods to cope with being used, ways to prevent the bad people from ruining your life, her reasoning behind what is to be done, and a little pick me up to encourage me to try and succeed. King doesn't trap me in a psychological cage and demands that I be the only daughter/lover to do all of her bidding, she coaches me on how to land a good man/keep good people and gives me the wings to fly on my own. Very helpful!!!

Another great little dating book in addition to Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov and Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey (who apparently does "gov't now" according to SNL - LOL). I gleaned different gems of wisdom from all three, but for the most part they keep saying the same things: don't sleep with a guy right away if you like him and/or want the possibility of the relationship developing into something more serious; get clear on what you want out of a relationship so that you can determine if the guy even appears to be remotely right for you before you sleep with him (attraction and compatibility can be two totally different things, but we sure can be blinded by physical attraction - LOL!); be happy with yourself and stay busy with your own life / interests / hobbies / friends because you can't expect a man to be your whole life / make you happy. I know that every once in a blue moon there is a couple that slept together on the 1st or 2nd date and now they are married and they drifted off happily ever after into the sunset. Reality check: The chances of this happening are sooooooooo incredibly slim. I personality have not done this, but ALL of my girlfriends who sleep with men they meet right away NEVER EVER can seem to find a guy who wants to commit. You know why? Because after the guy has had sex with them he probably starts scratching the side of his head the next day wondering: 'how many other guys has she done this with? I don't want a girl like that!' I find this so bizarre, but, yes, guys can take part in the act and then judge the girl for it and reject her without taking responsibility for the fact that they took part in the situation as well. It is so odd to me, but I have talked to some honest guys who have admitted to this kind of behavior / decision making time and time again. So, ultimately, the women "hold the keys to the kingdom" (aka power of the pussy) so to speak so it is wise for us to take our time, get to know someone a bit better and then make more of an educated decision as to whether to sleep with him or not. And, like Kara King said, if you don't like him, sleep with him. But, if you do, don't....until you get to know him better that is.... ;) As with anything in life, I take what I want and I leave the rest. I won't be going online to date as King suggests, but after reading this book I will definitely be stepping into my power more and have already noticed that I am walking taller and more confidently as a result of this book.

The book felt like a spinoff on why men love b*tches. I loved both and felt reading the two gave two different perspectives with similar ideas and scenarios so not entirely foreign. I earned a men will never be perfect and you will have to be okay with some flaws as long as they have the majority of dream man traits. A big takeaway I got from this book was fall in love with a man who treats you well. The book obviously also teaches women the power they hold and how to use it to their advantage in order to attract men. There are activities at the end f the book such as your dream guy list so you remember not to entirely settle for less. I personally haven’t done them but it is nice to think about and as you meet men, your values will form and change on what you desire in a man! Def recommend for night time reading:) and yea it will help you remember our worth & that u are a baddie& they’d be lucky if you even gave them the time of day!

I'm embarassed I got this (I think I was drunk), not because of the subject matter but because it's really obvious advice for the most part. Not to say it's not good advice, it's just pretty obvious. If you're an adult who's been out in the dating world you've (hopefully) figured out by yourself most of the advice in this book.... if you're a college-age woman or haven't dated much you might get some good tips. A few references in it definitely make it seem geared for women in their early-20s. Some things the book tells you to do I don't agree with on a moral level, like dating guys even if you KNOW you don't like them and then ghosting them or "putting them on the back-burner" when a better option comes along. I totally agree with the author that some men do this, but I personally don't think that justifies playing around with people's feelings like that. Sure, I agree with dating several guys if you're not exclusive and dating guys you don't normally consider "your type", but I don't agree with intentionally stringing men along when you know it won't go anywhere, using them to make other men jealous, or just ghosting them when they're no longer useful. That's a great way to be a pretty crappy human being, just saying. Now, there is a lot of good advice (if often obvious) and sometimes it helps to "hear it from someone else" because too many women KNOW what they should do and yet don't. Whether reading this book will make them follow through I don't know, I don't think it's that easy. But I'm still giving it 3 stars for laying it out there bluntly. It's a quick read and there's not much depth, and I think more experienced women might be disappointed. Also the advice is strictly for FINDING a relationship - the only advice for those IN a relationship is to dump your guy (the book makes the assumption he's not treating you right), so it's of no use to people in a relationship who want to stay in the relationship. All in all an ok use of $7, I'd be mad if I paid more though.

I might or might not implement what is said in this book because it is shocking for me. I am from India and women here (most of them) do not even realize that they are being used and abused. Leave alone the courage to break through. Because it is the way we are raised. We are not allowed to take birth in the first place. We are killed in the womb (as the girls fathers have to start accumulating dowry from the moment a 'she' is born)It is presumed that a guy will take care of the family when the parents are old (is that really true?) Even if we (girls)are born, we are treated in a secondary way. No eating food before the guys eat. Eating only what is left after they have finished.No sitting with them and talking to them. After girls are young, they are asked to be at home after evening time. Our mothers remind us every time that we belong to our in laws. If a girl is not a virgin, the sky falls in that case. No one will marry her.instead they will use her. After marriage, we are asked to treat everyone with respect and no one treats us with respect. The elderly ladies are the ones who dominate them in the new house. I remember when I was at a wedding, the lady who got married was asked to sleep with all the jewellery on along with the sari (which is tight) even when she was not willing to. And please get me right, one the first night she slept with all the ladies. (A couple is allowed sex only after a certain ceremony) I really like the way westerners have a principle of liberty and equality. In India women do not have a right to choose their husband (in some cases). Most of the marriages are arranged and depend as to how much dowry girls parents can afford.(In some states, they are killed for doing this. ) This has good and bad effects on the society. Women slog. Guys have a king life . But children are the survivors. But most of the times women keep quiet on the abuse and sacrifice for the whole of their lives. This is how marriages survive here. If a girl breaks even an arranged marriage, that is a great loss on her reputation. Women are rarely single parents. Those who are ,are viewed in a bad way. This is the current scene of Indian society. But good book.

Ok, full disclosure. I’m a guy who read this with intrigue. The author has an uncanny insight into the male spyche. I just wish she would write the reverse for men! I may not agree with all of it, however the bulk of the material is gold. For all the ladies out there, if you’re wondering what the hell makes men tick, then read this book!

If you are an introvert girl and a bit scrupulous, the book will liberate you. It teaches some things that men have been doing, so says the writer: that is, doing women for fun and experiment, heartlessly. It even says that women must try out different men: older, younger, sugar daddies, toy boys and so on. The writer assumes that what women have between their legs is the greatest weakness of men. Maybe. Women have been as manipulative, so long as my experience goes, as men. Not just that, they have this amazing skill to represent themselves as 'victims', no matter what. But the book will definitely give shy girls a boost.

女子はみんな必読でしょー!! タイトルに惹かれて購入。笑 いやいやこれがまた引き込まれるわおもしろいわ。 女に生まれたからには楽しまなきゃ！と気づかせて頂きました。 自信のない女性にこそ読んでもらいたい1冊。 女としての価値とは?またその価値を最大限に活かして目当ての男性を手に入れる方法が書かれてます。 オーディブルで聞きましたが、友達が語りかけてるような感じですごくよかった。 全部聞き終わった後は今後の期待にもうワクワクドキドキ。 自分はモテないから。。。 出会いがないし。。。 いつも遊ばれておしまい。。。 そんな人にこそ読んでほしい!

I am really passionate about relationship books, I have read tons written by men, written by women, written by men and women together....this is sincerely one of the best in my virtual shelf! I read last year this book and loved! It saved a date:) then I lost everything on my pc and have it now again ! I have found it very powerful, feminine and it gives you useful tips on how to use your self worth while dating...And before! It helps you on not lowering your standards, how to recognize good behaviours....not playing games! We are the game :)

Kara king is an amazing writer. She really nailed all the reality of the dating world. This book is a must read to all women in the planet.