Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve

This book's approach reminds me of that old Steve Martin comedy bit, "How you can have one MILLION dollars, and NEVER pay taxes...first, get a million dollars. Now---"The book is described as providing dating tips that still let *you* be *you*, and don't require any gamesmanship to meet and keep a quality man; neither claim turns out to be true. In a nutshell, the book's how-to can be boiled down to this:1. Get an amazing, irresistible life.2. Be an amazing, irresistible person.3. Stop being insecure.4. Chat and flirt with everything that moves, employing these specific strategies, types of come-ons, text messages and actions (which may totally seem like gamesmanship and manipulation, but trust the author, it's not).Follow those four simple steps and success is assured. Here's an actual excerpt from the book---I'm not kidding. If you're drinking anything, put the cup down *now* or your keyboard will be drenched in a few seconds:"The reason a guy gets hooked on one woman is not because she is *just sexy*, or *just playful*, or *just certain*, or *just feminine*, or *just bursting with integrity*, but because she possesses a unique combination of traits: the girl who is warm, has integrity, and can charm his family, then rips his clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual goddess; the girl who is playful with his friends, can debate politics like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday watching movies and eating pizza; the girl who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is feminine and loving with her man. Women like this cause an alarm to go off inside a guy's head and heart. Keep her, he thinks. This one's amazing!"...and if she existed as a real person, she wouldn't be reading this book. I could just as easily advise guys seeking dating advice:"The reason a woman gets hooked on one man is not because he is just sexy, or just playful, or just certain, or just masculine, or just bursting with integrity, but because he possesses a unique combination of traits: the man who is warm, has integrity, and can charm her family, then rips her clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual god who's willing to invest all the time she needs in foreplay; the man who is respectful with her friends, can fix things around the house and in the garage like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday at the museum or craft fair; the guy who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is gentle and loving with his woman and lavishes attention on her. Men like this cause an alarm to go off inside a woman's head and heart. He's just a character in a romance novel, she thinks. Be more realistic!"

I started watching Matthew Hussey on youtube and he's great. I started to take his advice and then it all of the sudden it became easy to approach men and talk to them and go on dates with them shortly after. I bought the book to get the rest of what he has to say. It's enjoyable to read. A lot of the book has things we already know deep down but it's good to hear someone say "men want those parts of you so own them" If you have been sitting at home watching Netflix or working at you job and wondering "How do I find the man for me?" You absolutely must buy this. I went from dating no one and meeting no one new to giving two cute guys my number (then figuring out they weren't for me). Going out with three others and then maybe finding the one for me. We'll see. You too can successfully talk to guys! AND I'm a single mom so its harder for me- you got this

I'm embarrassed to say that I was dumb enough to be conned by a slick snake oil salesman. That's all he is. A cute , energetic , great salesman. Save your money , you already know all of his so called "secrets" and "tips".There's no wonder to me that he himself cannot retain a partner. I bought this and 2 others from his company .What a waste of my hard earned money!! And do not , under ANY circumstances order directly from his "empire's" site ! His company illegally keeps your payment method on file and you WILL start getting random fraudulent charges for his other crap, "coaching" bs and all of his other nonsense , while entertaining , is as useless as this book .

I have heard Matthew Hussey speak on the radio and I was looking forward to reading his book, bu I was dissapointed to learn that after every chapter I had to sign in to the websiteand become a paid member in order to look t th video that accompanied each chapter......I felt thi was more of a pay as you go long "help book" than anyhing else.......I was extremely dissapointed and expected more from the author.......

To be cliche, don't judge this book by it's title. I will admit I was skeptical, bought the book anyway and have been pleasantly surprised. I initially wrote it off as another self help/dating book. I'm finding that despite it's title, it's so much more. It's one I will likely re-read and reference multiple times. This is information that I wish I had learned and applied years ago. The information and examples Matt uses in both the book and the videos are practical not just for seeking romantic relationships but also for every social relationship. It's essentially a book on relating and interacting in a purposeful way with people. The core driving point is to bring an awareness of how to engage in your life and make it more meaningful. That, in it's own nature, will attract people to you. It's not new or revolutionary information by an means but it resonated with me and I find myself reading and then re-reading parts of chapters because it's presented in such a relate-able and practical way. The book has helped me re-frame my thinking about how I interact with people. It has also helped reshape some of the goals I set in my own life. I enjoy the snip-its from the online access and have also watched some of the accompanying YouTube videos. In short, this was a very worthwhile investment for me and has made a positive change in the way I interact with the world around me. If I happen into an amazing relationship in that process, well, that's just icing on the cake, isn't it?

There is some good advice in this book, such as don't have sex with people before you feel a strong emotional connection from their side, if you are after a commited relationship. Also, good take on online dating – its focus being on all the wrong things such as physical appearance. However, quite a lot of advice which doesn’t take basic psychology into consideration like attachment, how it's formed, female psychology, etc. The general advice seems to be always play it cool when dating and be an interesting, independent person. Sure, that is good advice for almost anything in life, not just dating, but there are reasons why a lot of people can't do it. Author fails to acknowledge messy situations in life when you can't play it cool and fails to give any useful tips on what to do then. Dating is full of messy situations so he kind of misses the target, in my view. Also very little acknowledgment of women's needs from relationships, and how to be true to those needs while giving yourself and the guy a chance to figure out if you are a good fit. Too much focus on how to "manipulate" men into a relationship with various texting phrases and in essence playing hard to get types of behaviours. At one point, I felt as though the book is recommending to treat men as dogs in the the Pavlov experiment. While it may work for some men and some situations, it's not a silver bullet and in the long run it feels superficial. I personally wouldn't want to date a guy who could be manipulated this easily. I'd almost summarise this book as: How to create an impression you are a cool person that values herself and her needs, while actually you don't. In essence, this book isn't going to help you to start valuing yourself more and being true to your needs. However, this is exactly what you need to learn to have a healthy relationship. It might teach you how to give that impression, also give some examples of how people who value themselves act. There is value in this too. I wish someone would write a book about dating that would focus on authenticity, being open and honest while keeping your boundaries, valuing yourself and respecting and communicating your needs clearly. You know, the kind of things that actually matter in building quality human relationships, including romantic ones. Matthew you can do better than this. P.s. A few books I'd recommend & found more helpful: How To Get A Man Without Getting Played (good to help you avoid players), How to Handle a Narcissist (a fair amount of them online so learn how to recognise them), Her Needs, His Needs (good for understaning the importance of meeting both side's needs in a relationship and help you understand why meeting your needs is as important as meeting his), Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (good book to teach you how to negotiate and be assertive, good both for your work and love life), The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples.

I really like Matthew and his approach to relationships and dating, as he encourages being warm and loving. That's a huge plus. Lot of tips are commonsensical, yes, but at least they do not involve game-playing (which I loathe).Matthew says "no" to a lot of modern dating nonsense like: "He should call you first", "You should wait x days before responding", etc. Ugh. As someone who studies human dynamics and psychology of relationships, I agree 100% with him! If you want to experience love, you have to be loving and sometimes risk being vulnerable. It's impossible to love and play games at the same time.I've read so many books which place a woman on the pedestal. It is wrong, the same way as placing a guy on the pedestal. If you catch yourself thinking: "If he doesn't (do) x, then he is a moron and I'm moving on!", then consider imagining someone saying these words in your face and think what your reaction would be. Changes perspective, doesn't it? The ideal approach in human relationships is not to look up to anybody, and not to look down on anybody - Matthew nails it. He advocates reciprocating and investing back in people who have shown their worth; he also says not to be afraid of making first move; he laughs at passive aggressive behaviours and instead promotes self-love and growing as a person.He is - and most likely will remain - one of my favourite coaches, because he treats human beings with respect, and not like pawns on the board. This is, most probably, reason number one why you should give his book a go. I'd definitely recommend it!

This has now become my bedtime listening and I absolutely love it - There is nothing dull about the way Matthew delivers information, he covers all aspects of dating and relationships but also in a way that is attainable for women to relate to and understand, and without feeling an offence from the blunt truths that are being told (with kindness)He leaves no stone unturned. How to be dignified in break ups, how to communicate your standards to men without coming across like a crazy lady, what men really look for etc. The lot.I have tried many other self-help/ development books, all the popular ones and got bored through most, yet this for me nails it and keeps me interested (I suppose it’s like the sex and the city version of the other books) it’s also kept light hearted but full of wisdom at the same time. I’d recommend the audible, he has charisma worth listening too to keep you engaged.I’m forever pulling Alexa up so I can record parts of this to send to my MANY friends (who I’m constantly quoting Matthew hussey comments too)If you are going through anything with men or simply want to be a high-value woman with strong morals Get the book(And the audible)

I have always been a fan of mat in youtube! It is because of his advises that i am currently happy in a relationship with my boyfriend who i dont have doubts of his love for me. I may not be the best looking girl in the world, but i sure do know how to use the hand that i was dealt with! 😉Thanks to mats encouragements and insights to mans psychology!😊😊😉Thank you matthew hussey!

This is not a book about getting a man. Is more about how loving yourself first can open the doors to someone special in your life. I love it.