The Guncle

"The Guncle" was recommended to me as a light summer read, a funny novel to take to the beach. It is not. It is a great deal more than that. It’s not "light" though it does have a lot of humor. Yes, it's funny, but not always.It’s a book about love, loss, and dealing with grief, and probably one of the best books I have read recently that covers all of these. It is hardly light reading.The protagonist, Patrick O’Hara, is an actor whose face is instantly recognizable, as he was in a sitcom, "The People Upstairs," a television hit for many years. (Think "Friends.") His catchphrase – people throw it at him when they see him – was “And that’s how you do it!” – particularly apt for this story.But he has retired to the desert, to Palm Springs, California, enveloped in deep grief owing to the death of the great love of his life, his partner Joe. Yes, Patrick is gay. Guncle=Gay Uncle, which is what his niece, 9-year-old Maisie and nephew, 6-year-old Grant, call him. (They also call him GUP, which stands for Gay Uncle Pat.)Maisie and Grant come into Patrick’s lonely, isolated life one summer when his once-best friend Sara dies. Sara and Patrick were extremely close at college, then she married his brother, Greg, and they became less close.But Patrick still treasures their memories and he has never forgotten their deep relationship. But now Sara has passed away and her husband, Patrick’s brother, is in a very bad way.During Sara’s long illness he became addicted to opiates to hold himself together as she deteriorated physically. He is on his way to rehab, to a facility near Palm Springs, and so he asks Patrick to take his children for the summer. There is also another sibling, Clara, but it is Patrick whom Greg importunes to help him. (Later, we learn the reason why.)Steven Rowley'sSteven Rowley's "The Guncle," published by G.P. Putnam's Sons.Patrick is quite reluctant to take on the children, though he loves his family deeply, but his grief at losing his partner has overtaken him over the years. He doesn't really know the children well and he doesn't feel equipped to take care of them. And, he has never been a parent.So that is the set-up to this winning story of Patrick’s summer with his niece and nephew, and their verbal exchanges.Grant, in his endearing lisp, never stops asking questions – and confrontations. Maisie can be extremely stubborn and calls him out when she doesn’t think he is making any sense.But the love and caring underpinning of the relationship carries them through, and, at summer’s end, with his brother Greg completing rehab, Patrick ends up not wanting the children to leave. They have found common ground and grown close. The exchanges are written well and are humorous, despite the underlying grief that ties them together.There's a point during the long, hot, desert summer that sister Clara decides she wants the children. But Patrick won't let that happen. They have become a part of him and he has become a part of them. Patrick lays claim and stands up to his domineering sibling.Add to the mix some lovable characters. There's JED, the gay throuple (yes, that does seem to be a word describing a gay threesome, also spelled “thrupple” by some) living next door, and Marlene Dietrich, the rescue dog that Patrick adopts to join him and the children. There's also Rosa, a Mexican housekeeper/cook who blends in beautifully with all of them. And a new agent named Cassie who wants Patrick to get back into acting.Rosa embodies a caring wisdom and Cassie won’t take no for an answer. There is also a possible new beau for Patrick who suddenly appears.Despite himself, Patrick begins to see that he has another chance at a good, full life and that having the children in his life has helped him turn a corner.And what was his dear, dear soul mate Sara’s part in all this?Guess you’ll have to read "The Guncle" to find out. The novel has been compared to the play "Auntie Mame" and yes, I can see that, but this story will give you a few more insights into relationships. Whether you read it at the beach or in the comfort of your favorite chair, it's the summer's must read.

I almost gave up early on. The writing seemed scattered, disjointed. It didn't appear to have anything to hook me. But at about 30%, it had me. The pieces fell in place and it became a most enjoyable read. I had tears in my eyes many times, and laughed at times too. So many poignant gems about grief and the tough, messy way through it, around it. Patrick became my hero and proved to be a first rate Guncle. Time well spent with this read.

Anyone who is older than sixty, at least, probably remembersNoel Coward. If not, I am sorry for you. However, the star of this book so reminded me of him. He was so urbane, so witty,and talented that I almost saw Patrick as a version of Noel.This book has the same characteristics. It is witty, even downright funny. At the same time, it is a bit sad and poignant, but truly heartwarming. The children are delightful as are all the secondary characters in Patrick's life. You will love this book.

This book is everything. Sweet, funny, wise, very sad, loving--and more. It also captures how children are lovable even when they are extremely annoying.If I had paid the slightest bit of attention to who wrote this book I would not have bought it. I read Lily and the Octopus and did not enjoy it. Luckily, this book is entirely different. It is a joy to read and I am so happy I didn't pay any attention to who the author is.

This is an absolute must read! As the mother of 18 and 20 year old girls, I got some jaunty comebacks and a great reminder to be more open to what the universe has to offer and everyone has their own path. 🩷

I enjoyed this book -- despite the fact that I'd picked it up because I wanted a "lift me up". It is NOT a comedy or as "lighthearted" as the blurbs would have you believe. It is essentially about overcoming grief. And there is lots of grieving going on in this book. It has a hopeful message and a believable ending. The characters act like adults and that is refreshing (for example, I liked the way the siblings ultimately used common sense to resolve things,) but everyone has a real grief to deal with and it is a tribute to the good writing that we feel their grief and grieve with the characters. So bring a hanky.

Heart tugging, fun to read. Love the energy and compassion of the kids. Some adults could learn a thing or two about acceptance,.

J expected a light read. But was pleasantly surprised by TBE depth of the characters. An excellent story of love& redemption. Would highly recommend to friends.

It’s a very sweet book, which needed to be either a bit less so or a lot shorter. I don’t regret the hours I’ve spent on it, but I don’t recommend that anyone else should.

Loved this book. ...gorgeous, thoughtful, funny, touching, warm, witty......I would recommend this to EVERYONE.....and it's going to be on TV....perfect

This is such a sweet book - tender and very funny as well.

Poignant and hilarious in turns, this story turns on terrible losses and the human cost of loving deeply. Family relationships in all their glorious messiness are written with wisdom and compassion. Couldn’t put it down.

Well written and full of laugh out loud moments. A book about transition, loving who you love and family ties.