The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy

This book is super inclusive and is a really validating text that I would recommend to anyone who is poly and has anxiety!

Well written and workbook sections were useful and gave us a lot to think about!

It was in such good shape when I got it, I forgot I bought it used!

This is a guide book by a nonbinary neurodivergent asexual who practices ethical polyam. It provides helpful yips to look into different relational aspects of dividing time, metamours, and other things to consider when getting into polyam. There is even workbook questions to answer to think of practical things. It is a good idea to know a little bit about polyam before reading this book as it's not a beginner guide into it more of a guide of how to work on relationships.

Lola Phoenix has done a masterful job of encapsulating multiple valuable perspectives on polyamory. They truly strike a humble, relatable tone in the conclusion by stating that they are not experts in the field, which frankly lends much more veracity to their book. Well done and thank you!

This book is genuinely exactly as titled- it’s more than JUST a relationship book it also has a pointed focus on mental health and how it ties into your relationships. This is going to be my go to recommended book for ppl with questions about non-monogamy.

The good:- The worksheets can help you discover how you feel about various polyamory related practices and put those feelings into words.- The disabled/mental illness/trauma-related content is nice to see. I particularly found the discussion of how these relate to self-doubt in polyamory helpful.The bad:- The writing style is difficult to parse.- Terms (such as "relationship anarchy") are used without being clearly defined for much of the book.- The objections the author has to certain attitudes and practices within the polyamory community took up too much of the book. In addition to being repetitive, this content was simply irrelevant to me.Overall, I'd recommend checking out other books on the subject unless you are specifically looking for the experience of someone who has experienced abuse, mental illness, and disability.

Dipping my toes in non monogamous relationships and came across this title. I'm not even finished and already feel more well equipped than before. An easy read that is relatable and helpful.

A huge help for people who didn't quite feel comfortable in mono or poly realms, were sceptical of the "poly preaching" typically found in poly literature, and who feel there can't just be an extreme binary perspective. The reflections on relationship anarchy as a way to describe scepticism of labels and to highlight fluidity of relationship structures and people's needs are extremely insightful. This book empowers the reader to reflect on what positive and nourishing relationships are without attaching value or shame. Reading this made me feel seen! Thank you

Really enjoyed this book, polyamory is something I've become interested in. This book helped me to see what a potential relationship would be like and the different options there are

This book will be very useful so some people, but in my case I found the author's anxiety spill over to me when reading the book, therefore increasing my own anxiety rather than reducing it (which I took to be the purpose of the book). While some will find this book helpful, I preferred the more academic "Polysecure" (by J. Fern) instead.

I did enjoy this book and some of the insights but after a while I was just reading it to finish, I felt like I was already reading common knowledge that I knew about. I think this would be good for the absolute novice, but perhaps not for someone who has researched a lot already. There were some viewpoints I felt were a little biased and depending on the type of person experiencing, would be more subjective. The very first part of the book I thought was great and was great to explain anxiety and how it is a normal emotion but then I felt there was a lot of repetition after it going over similar points. I’d like to learn a bit more about polyamory in greater depths. The exercises in the book I found hard to follow.