Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing: The powerful memoir from the beloved star of Friends

It is one of the best books to read to understand what happens behind addiction, and find a way to see the human behind.

“Diving into ‘Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing’ by Matthew Perry is like peeking behind the curtain of a beloved character. In the book, Matthew, not Chandler, shares his real-life struggles despite having fame and success. It’s not the happy ride I expected; instead, it’s a roller coaster of emotions. Reading this after his passing brought tears as I discovered the hidden battles he faced. The book beautifully shows that life is more than just the laughs and applause. Matthew, beyond the funny guy we know, reveals a vulnerable side battling personal demons. It’s hard to fathom how someone who made us laugh so much carried so much pain inside. As Chandler, he made us laugh, and through this memoir, he shares the less-known, emotional side of his life. This memoir is a touching reminder that even those who bring joy can have their own struggles. Matthew Perry, not just Chandler, emerges as a strong soul. The book leaves a lasting impact, making us appreciate the complexity of a life lived both on and off the screen. 📖💕 Matthew’s dreams came true when he embodied the character of Chandler Bing on the show. We could express it as ‘Chandler lived the life that Matthew had envisioned.’’

Lovely. Liked Chandler, and Matthew Perry's story is very relatable, though I'm not an addict.

My heart is full... He is (yes, he will always be with us) such a wonderful person... I'm glad he knew in the end, how loved he was...

It's really a nice book

I'm a big fan of Chandler and there is no one in the world who could play him other than MP. This book is hilarious yet extremely sad..it unfurls like a movie script i felt. What was heartbreaking to know is that though Chandler was played by Matthew, Matthew wasn't the least bit like Chandler..he just longed to have a normal life, a wife and kids...the last chapter ..when he wins over all his demons and is ready to turn a new page..and the reader knows like him that it was all a bit too late.

About the seller: I bought this for ₹380 for a library binding format (as they claimed). But I received a fake but coloured paperback of the original. In the last pages, there were inkstains and printer info. About the book: I have always wondered how a person like Perry could be depressed amd addicted like this. Now reading the book, it is depressing, except for the last chapter. He has written his sadness in a lighter tone, that's why people claim it to be funny. But it's a sad memoir in reality, also now that he has died. I was depressed for 2 3 days after reading it. Rest in Peace Chandler Bing.

Authentic read about the actor must read

There are some books you want to look through the reviews before you decide if you want to pick it up or not, then there are others you just want to read for yourself. Matthew's book was one that I wanted to read for myself. Though in looking through the reviews now that I have finished it, I realize either someone loves it or does not, there is no in-between it seems. Before I write any more of my review - I want to point out that I am 99.9% certain I read a Kindle version that was edited to remove whatever there was about Keanu. So if someone is reading my review wondering why I don't mention it, I cannot comment on what I did not read. --- One more observation, from the reviews I did look through, it seems that most people who *listened* to the book disliked it more than those who *read* it. Seems listening to it make it more difficult to follow the already jumping timeline. Again, just my observation. From the beginning Matthew tells us how this story is going to be written/told. How? you ask? "Groundhog Day" is his favorite movie, do I really need to say anything more? If you do not understand this reference, please take the time (1 hour and 40 minutes) to watch the 1993 classic movie with Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. Then perhaps more things will make sense for you. Thankfully I have never been an alcoholic or an addict, however, I have known several in my life. For them every day is groundhog day. Every morning the question of, "How will I get through today without a drink/pill/smoke/etc." makes every 24 hours the same. Matthew shows that in spades with his repetition throughout his story. Many of the reviews I saw complained about the repetition; if they don't understand it, perhaps they should count themselves lucky not to. To have never known someone who lives every day like this; or to not be that person themselves. Matthew's story didn't end all sunshine-and-rainbows with a happily every after. Not everyone's does. I appreciated the fact that he kept it real. That he kept it honest. That he shows his faults to us just as much as he shows us the goodness. Life isn't always polished and pretty no matter who you are or how much money you have. Matthew proves that. No matter how bad things seemed to be for him, Matthew always looked to his future, he always wanted to be there. Perhaps not always for the right reasons, but reasons that kept him moving forward nonetheless. There is something to be admired about that. Interestingly, one of my favorite lines reads, "God looked down on me, just waiting it out. He's got all the time in the world. F*<k, he invented time." There is something raw and honest and scary and funny in those words that just made me stop reading and literally highlight it in my Kindle book. Follow that with another line I highlighted that reads, "It was an amazing moment and a terrible moment all at at the same time." Talk about defining life most days. Perhaps not Pulitzer winning writing, but powerful and truthful just the same. I have to say my all-time favorite sentence is this one - "God is everywhere - you just have to clear your channel, or you'll miss it." Doesn't matter what version of God you believe in, that sentence has a profound truth to it. (That one got highlighted in pink) Not something I would have expected from Matthew. But I am grateful he wrote it. I am easily giving this book all five stars for it's raw honesty, it's openness, it's imperfectness. Just like Matthew. Yes, I finally read his story after his sudden death on October 28, 2023. As I'm writing this on November 24, 2023, his cause of death still has not been determined nor released. Which makes one last sentence stand out for me in a premonition kind of way as I wonder what COD will turn out to be... Matthew himself wrote, "I could have a cigarette right now, have a heart attack, and if no one was around to call 911, I was a goner." Well, he was home alone, and he did try to call 911 himself, but he was unable to save himself this time. Oh, Matthew. I wonder if you have finally found peace and all the deep, full Love you have always desired. Thank You for leaving a light on for us with your story. I pray it helps more people so that you may continue helping people even after you've gone on ahead of us in death.

يحتوي ٨ سيديات مش واحد بسمعه قريب.. الكاتب ممثل في مسلسلي المفضل وعندي فضول اسمع قصته ماكنت اعرف كان يعاني حتى اثناء فترة التصوير ويمثل انه طبيعي ولا احد كان حاس شيء محزن الله يحسن خاتمتنا

I am a fan of Friends and Perry. Getting to know more about his life has taught me more about the actor, the man, but also helped me reflect on my life as well, at different levels, but the book is written in such a simple way that it was easy for me to draw parallels with my own person/life. The book made me go through all sorts of emotions and this is how I define a good book.

Just loved it, the quality also very good.

You learn so many life lessons from this book. Being a celebrity isn’t an ordinary thing