Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner

I am engaged and planning to get married in October but the relationship had reached the breaking point and I knew that if we didn't find some way to change our behavior patterns that we absolutely would never get married, and if we did we would NOT have a happy marriage. That being said.....I am typically the calm one in my relationship. I entered the relationship with a lot of patience but slowly the anger and yelling of my partner wore me down and I started behaving just as badly as him. Every disagreement or difference in opinions that we had turned into world war 3. Every argument that we had became a yelling match that usually ended in him insulting me. He was an extremely jealous, insecure, controlling, overbearing rage-aholic. I could have listed 100 things that he did wrong when I started this book, and maybe three or four things that I did wrong. Because I was the calm one in our arguments typically, because I don't blow up about the little things, because I do so many things for him, because he told me that he knew I was the better person in our relationship, I really was naive to my level of contribution to our failures. By the end of chapter 6 I voluntarily wrote out a 6.5 page list of the things for myself that I realized I was doing to cause damage to my relationship. It felt so good to admit those things to myself. Have I continued to do some of them? Of course. The difference is that I realize it as I'm doing it, or right after I do it, and apologize.I can now TRULY inspire respect, love, honor, and dignity by providing those things for my partner, and myself (most importantly). I can now truly inspire good behavior with my good behavior. As I was going through the book I read some key points to him and we talked about a lot of things. He would seem uninterested a lot of the time, but over the next couple of weeks after I shared those things, I realized he had been listening the whole time. We have changed the whole dynamic of our relationship. We still have our spats that cause us to yell. We still make mistakes. The difference now is that 9 out of 10 times we are able to: let go of the minor things; recognize what each of us is contributing to a tense situation; APOLOGIZE; agree to disagree if we have to, in a healthy manner (not just a manner that gets the other person to finally shut the hell up!); communicate about issues as they arise and have emotional closure right then, instead of letting things drag out and create distance.This book was incredibly eye opening. I pride myself on being self aware, but I quickly realized that I was only aware of what was on or near the surface of my emotional and mental state. I was forced to face myself first, before I started dealing with my relationship. I feel a lot happier with myself, not considering my relationship. For the entirety of the 26 years of my life I had the bitter ideas of my negative, hateful relatives shoved down my throat. I was programmed to think certain ways about myself, about the world, about men, and especially about relationships. All though I have disconnected myself from them and have always told myself that they were wrong, I did not realize how much of what I had learned was truly ingrained in the mentality that I faced the world with.I have a lifetime of erroneous ways to un-learn. I know that it may take me another 26 years of repeatedly reading this book for my newly learned behaviors to become natural instinct, but I will do whatever it takes to continue feeling as healthy as I do now. I also know that my fiance and I will have to continuously remind each other of what we have learned, and continuously work on improving our relationship. One month after reading this book we are going strong, but I know that we WILL regress if we aren't mindful of this fact.I read this book because my relationship was at a crossroads. I was bitter, angry, hurt, and to my breaking point, ready to call it quits. However, I truly felt that if I was ever going to be able to make a relationship work, that it could be with my fiance, so I didn't want to just give up. I can honestly say that we have started to develop the foundation that will not only allow us to walk down the aisle, but to also have a long-lasting, happy, and healthy marriage.Thanks Dr. Phil!

If you're looking at this book, your relationship is failing and you want to do something about it. If you get Relationship Rescue and actually follow its 7-step strategy, you'll definitely become a better partner and a better person overall. It will have you take a look at yourself and how you've contributed to or allowed/accepted the failing relationship you're currently in and then it'll guide you to do what it takes to change.The steps in this book are straightforward and can be completed alone, even if your partner isn't aware or interested in joining you. Of course, it will work significantly better if you are both onboard and can work together.In my personal experience with this book, it was recommended to me by a therapist I started seeing because I was overwhelmed with stress as my marriage was falling apart. I read it, went through the steps, but as much as I improved and changed, it was too late for my marriage. My now ex-wife had already moved on too far and had no interest in self-reflection by the time I started my own self-improvement, so she was totally unreceptive to any of my efforts.But you know what? While Relationship Rescue didn't do anything to rescue my marriage, but it still played a role in rescuing my relationship with myself. It took some time and pain to come to that conclusion because I was so keen on trying to save my marriage, but this book played a role in helping me discover that I'm capable of and worthy of something better than what I was trying to save.

Best book on marriage and couples I have read, and I’ve read a ton! I could not believe this info was coming from Dr Phil of all people?! I have gained new respect for him. My husband and I were impacted greatly by the information on the pages. IF YOU ARE TRYING TO RECONNECT OR ATTEMPTING TO REVIVE YOUR MARRIAGE, THIS IS THE BOOK!!!! AMAZING CONTENT. THANK YOU THANK YOU DR PHIL.YOU MUST READ THIS BOOK AND THE WORKBOOK IS A MUST. DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND BUY TWO WK BOOKS AND TWO BOOKS YOU WILL WANT TO HAVE YOUR OWN FOR HIGHLIGHTS AND NOTES. CHOCK FULL OF HELP ON EVERY PAGE 💝

As I started going through the separation process with now my ex-wife, I found that this book pointed out some issues that hit the nail on the head. The bad habits like scorekeeping and the win button. Unfortunately, my ex could not curve herself from the win button as there were grounds to believe there were possible mental issues deep-rooted in her childhood that prevented change and a desire to win all fights. I remember a part of the audio where Dr. Phill's voice changed indicated that the habit he was talking about is a relationship killer, believe it was the win button one...it's been a while, back in 2015. It is key whenever you have a worthwhile relationship that fails it is important to review yourself and your relationship so as not to repeat. Being now an aged dater, I listen for people who say that their past relationship was all the other person's fault as a immediate red flag and no date.

helpful but not outstanding ...still working on it. It works on yourself no guarantee it will work on your partner. So do everything for you...

Absolutely love this book its 100 percent worth the money so many wonderful exercises. I was skeptical put off buying it for awhile but its a really good read. I myself never read but this was defently a good one to start at truly is helping me feel better and learning stuff i actually care to know about. I recommend it to everyone i know.

I carefully considered the heading because that is what this book was for me and could be for you. Straight away it gives me hope and a pathway to achieve what seemed the impossible. I have just read the book and still have to put it all into practise with a partner in pain and seemingly given up on us. So many of you may say it's a little premature to give it positive review.The point is that it has given me hope and more importantly a step by step route to a reunion which has the potential to be better than it ever was. So really the journey is only just beginning but it's helped retrieve my 'mojo' already and given me optimism that had been lacking in the two months from when the nightmare started.So watch this space ........,

The book is written in a fashion that assumes the reader is a woman. It also assumes you are married. It this is the case then this book could help you but only if your spouse is supportive of new ideas and putting in the time. The quiz will help you understand your level of challenge to determine how much work you need to do in order to rescue your relationship. It also provides some step by step suggestions but they will only work if you both willing to put in the effort. This is not a substitute for professional help should your situation warrant it.

I bought this for a family member who was facing the breakdown of a long relationship. I looked through the book first and found, as you would expect with Doctor Phil, that it tackled the problem in a very organised way, which is ideal when heartbreak is stopping you think straight. Even if it doesn't mend the current relationship, it is well worth working through to make you a better catch when entering further relationships (unthinkable now, I know, but it does get better).In my relative's case, the relationship did not mend, but the book helped answer the question of "why?" and he is coping much better than we had feared. Definitely worth a try, because worked through properly (it is almost like a course) it can only be for the good whatever the fate of the relationship