The Introvert's Way

Este libro ayuda a empoderar a las personas que nacimos (y siempre seremos) introvertidos. No sólo nos explica que es algo genético y no controlado por nadie, sino nos explica como los extrovertidos del mundo que mandan en la política, el marketing, protagonistas de películas, los colegios etc. nos hacen pensar que los introvertidos son los defectuosos; no los extrovertidos. La autora esboza las ventajas e inconvenientes de las dos personalidades. Ejemplo: el mundo NO va bien por culpa de los que mandan en el mundo y los que mandan casi siempre son extrovertidos.

Ich habe das Buch durch ein Zitat entdeckt und bin froh, es gekauft und gelesen zu haben. Die Autorin schreibt mit Humor und vermittelt gleichzeitig den Ernst mancher Situationen. Sie beschreibt anhand von verschiedenen Szenarien die Vor- und Nachteile im Leben einer introvertierten Person. Definitiv weiterzuempfehlen an Menschen die sich für diese Thema interessieren oder die sich daran annähern wollen.

Amazing book. Being an introvert myself, I kind of take this as my personal guide and it seems like my entire character is explained to me. I grew proud of being and introvert and under no circumstances I need to justify or change myself. I am who I am and I am an introvert!

"The Introvert's Way - Living A Quiet Life In A Noisy World" by Sophia Dembling was eye opening and very self revealing. I discovered it in reading an article by the author in the Wall Street Journal. I was 76. I've had a good life. I'm highly educated. I've retired from a good profession. Yet, somehow, I've always felt that I just didn't mark up. I felt like an imposter. Deep down, I was a loner who preferred being by myself a lot of the time. I spent loads of time just sitting around thinking. I always seemed to be inside my own head. I shunned obvious socializing. I tried to hide my true nature and be more outgoing. Well, after reading only the Introduction to this book (What Would Jung Say?) I fully realized that I was a deep-dyed introvert. I guess I've always known, but I didn't think about it much. I always viewed it as a negative characteristic. Also, finally, I realized, with the help of Author Dembling and this book, that it was totally normal and not negative at all.Ms Dembling defines what she means by the term introvert and introduces the extrovert-introvert spectrum. On that scale I lie deep within the introverts. Then, chapter by chapter, she explains what it means to be an introvert and always from an introvert's point of view. It's revealing and interesting. I can clearly see that author Dembling understands my kind of person. Every chapter fits me almost perfectly. Perhaps one thing I might elaborate on is shyness. It seems to go along with being an introvert, or at least that's the way people think. I've always considered myself as being shy, but am I? I love public speaking, for example. I've given over 400 public talks with audiences up to 300, plus I've taught university classes on a daily basis. I love being in front of an audience or on TV. I once had a 20-minute gig as a stand-up comic with an audience of about 150. I spent two solid weeks preparing for it, and when I finished and stepped down from the podium people were crying from the laughter. I had a high that lasted a week! This is shyness? But I'm still an introvert. Well, Johnnie Carson was an introvert, as Dembling points out.Then there's the matter of extroversion via booze. That seems to work for a lot of people. Not me. Not at all. I can arrive at a party as an introvert, take a couple drinks and I'm an introvert who has had a couple drinks. I can drink to where it's hard to walk, but I'm still an introvert. At times, I drink a lot but nobody has ever witnessed me publicly drunk. Well, other people certainly aren't that way, as we all know. In graduate school, I knew a very shy extrovert. Yes, that's possible, as Dembling points out. Once in class on the first day, the professor asked the name and previous school of everyone. Each student had to stand up and deliver it. This one guy couldn't do it. He couldn't utter his own name or his undergraduate school! He was that shy! However, he would show up at a party and his shyness would decrease with every drink. Before long he'd be in the center of the room leading the crowd in singing hilarious dirty songs. He was always a big hit and everybody would be talking about it days afterward. At one crowded party, I heard a bunch of muffled thumping and bumping sounds and I looked around and this guy was in the center of the room outfitted with skis and ski poles. He had skied down the stairs from the second floor to that position. Everyone was laughing and having a great time with it. Ah yes, shy extroverts!In looking back on my early years and using the insight of this book, I'd say that both Mom and Dad were introverts. Mom especially, and anyone could spot it. Dad was more difficult. He was superficially much more outgoing, but I think it was a learned condition and he was taught, possibly in corporate training sessions, that being an introvert was a bad thing. Well, I was a born introvert and it was readily apparent, and becomes much more apparent after reading this fine book. Dad always regarded it as a negative characteristic and thought it would prove to be a hindrance in my later life. He'd often tell me I had to be more outgoing. He'd always point out successful people and indicate out how they had lot's of personality, as he put it, and how people with less personality (a secret message to me) would never be as successful. I developed feelings of inferiority. No matter, it became a driving force. When I went to college, I had a slow start, but by the time I was 26 I had BA, MS and PhD degrees, all from major universities. Then I got a university teaching position at 26, and by 32 I was promoted to Full Professor. At the age of 35 I was elected Department Chairman. Dad knew enough university people to realize that this record was stunningly successful. I think he gradually came to realize that much of what he taught me was nonsense. Well, I should add, that his intentions were in the right place, I have no doubt. I'm sure Dad didn't know what an introvert was. He was interpreting my lack of extrovert qualities as being negative. Dembling explains this common tendency well in her book.Now, I have a wonderful little four-year-old boy. He's very bright, energetic, personable and good looking. He's the picture of future success, I'd guess. But I can already see that down under everything, he's a introvert. That's okay. I'm very proud of him and I prefer him being an introvert. Personally, I regard it as a gift and I'll never criticize him for it. I'll try to nurture him in the best way possible to thrive in a world of extoverts.This is an excellent book, especially for introverts. Read it and understand yourself. If you're an extrovert, read the book as a way of understanding introverts.Gary Peterson

I received this book with footnotes throughout it. I was very disappointed. The book in it self is phenomenal. I read the first 4 pages until I realized it was used and the writing was obnoxious.