The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them Kindle Edition

This book was life changing for me. I mean that sincerely. I've always done decently well with women but have yet to find myself in a long term, passionate relationship. I kind just assumed that it took time to find someone for which there was a mutual interest, and that I hadn't found that person yet. I've dated some girls in the past that I would consider really good looking, but things would die out after just a few dates / hangouts. I honestly didn't know why. I imagined I just hadn't quite found the right one yet.After a disappointing end to a recent "relationship" I was finally sick of things not working out with the women that I truly wanted. I was also sick of waiting around for answers. I looked for a book that would tell me something I hadn't heard before in the dating space. I didn't even know what I was getting into, to be quite honest. I just picked this book because it had really good reviews, and well, I needed something to read on the topic.The book starts slow. I struggled through the first couple chapters and didn't really want to press on. But I did, and it was so worth it. After the introduction about how society has shaped men and women's roles in sexuality, things pick up very quickly. The author goes on to describe what women really want (confident, direct, dominant men) and the fact that men spend most of their time chasing things they think will bring them closer to women (success in the workplace, a great physique, lots of money, etc) instead of just going after them. Sure, a man with a great job and a great body will help a man stand out on paper, but to get a woman's engine revving, there's so much more to it. This is what I really got out of the book.There's so much stuff to talk about, and the other reviewers here have done a great job portraying the strengths of this book, so I won't touch on everything. I just have to say - this book is incredible. So many women have told me how nice of a guy I am. I've had countless people tell me I'm one of the nicest people they've ever met. I know that sounds incredibly self-centered, but I'm trying to make a point. I was "the nicest guy ever" to lots of girls. I was funny and cute. But I watched those same girls be swept away by jerks and just didn't get it. This book puts all of that in perspective so well.Sure, I just read it last week, so I haven't radically transformed my life yet, but the lessons here are invaluable. This book has literally flipped my world upside down. I now view women / dating / seduction 100% different than I did even just last week. Had I known about this information, I would have paid thousands of dollars for it years ago. I seriously wish I read it way before I did. It's that good and it's that true. If you struggle with women or just want to do better with them, you 100% need this book. I wish I knew the author. I wish he paid me to write this review. That would be amazing. But I don't and he didn't. I'm just blown away by the information in the book. It will be the best $10 you've spent in quite some time (assuming you actually read the book and implement its strategies), I guarantee it.

This book espouses surprisingly well done, useful methodology for which a man can learn to understand certain particulars of attraction. One of the greatest aspects of this work is that a person will learn to see the world of relationships as a set of interactions that are based on a certain set of principles perpetuating either the movement towards a successful sexual interaction or away from. What the author offers is a deeper understanding of the manner in which a man could both view the world as well as how he could act to maximize his attractiveness. While I have no intention of completely outlining Anton's philosophy in this review, it may be helpful to highlight a few philosophies that he introduces in order for potential buyers to decide if this book will suit their needs:- Attractiveness vs. Technique: "The Manual" concerns itself with acting in an attractive manner and handling interactions with women in a way that dramatically increases ones ability to influence situations in ones favor. As such, it promotes attitudes and behavioral patterns that make a surprisingly vast majority of women to view a man as highly attractive. In following the authors advice, suddenly there will be a pool of readily available women whom desire to be with you. This gives a man options and a supply of partners. What the book is NOT is a collection of techniques designed to manipulate certain reactions out of women. So, you won't find any explicit tactics to get a specific girl or personality type but rather will develop a means to have numerous attractive women as sexual partners, romantic lovers, etc. Simply put, there will be enough beautiful girls in your life that you won't be concerned about devoting resources to getting a specific woman. Such a distinction I feel is necessary because many young men who seek out dating advice are looking to "get" a particular person they might have strong feelings for and this might not offer any "PUA technique" to address a specific need. However, for those who have outgrown this stage of their lives will greatly appreciate having instead many women attracted to them due to their behavior.- The concept of Responsibility: An interesting line of thought as presented in the book, this is a very useful principle that has use outside of the context of attracting women as well. Many people go through life in a sort of "in between" state of indecisiveness concerning most things. Women are no different and are apt to do this in the world of dating and sex as well. Extrapolating further on this point, women rarely have a hardline concerning men that they will either find a man a.) hideously unattractive, never having a chance with her or b.) so attractive that she will have sex with him within a minute of meeting him. Instead, given an unaltered state of mind, she is apt to operate within a spectrum of considering men along a range. Knowing this, there is a tendency to think of the possibility of a man as a prospective lover as a series of "maybes." Maybe I'll date him, maybe I'll let him kiss me, maybe I'll see him as a potential mate, etc. The concept of responsibility, as outline in this book, allows for a man to direct this ambiguity towards making a choice to meet his desires. Those maybes become: I'm going on a date with him, he's kissing me, he is my mate, etc. A tremendous concept when applied the way he teaches it that personally found to be key in having women become attracted to me and becoming very sexual very quickly.Internal Factors - The author spends a lot of time offering a different perspective on how a man should potentially view the world. Though largely his opinion, this section of the book would benefit a lot of people and really is a collection of solid advice a father might give to his son. Encouraging a sense of selfishness and audacity may be counter to what society wants, but the author explains how such factors, normally viewed as a negative, can be useful for an individual.I wanted to address a few concerns some people have stated in other reviews and answer them as I see it in order to help buyers decide for themselves if this book is for them. First, some feel his ideas are pseudo-science. Frankly I don't disagree but his stuff works. I mean there's a lot of resources out there for men looking to get woman but this book's concepts actually work. Somehow those trying to question the academic and scientific basis for Anton's work might appear as if they have not tried to apply the principles but rather just studied the book as if it were a textbook rather than a book of advice. The second criticism that seems to occur is that the author at times discusses the fact that some married women will cheat on their husbands. I think personally (just my opinion) to critique this book for its lack of morality guidelines is somewhat not properly reviewing the book based on what it is designed to do. "The Manual" shows you how to understand attraction not place an ethical compass on your life. One of the reasons I think the author does mention married women is because men who learn to attract women later in life (i.e. mid 20s and up) rather than those who are naturally attractive are surprised by the amount of committed women who will easily sleep around and do so guilt free. In the few years I have applied the principles of the book, it was almost heartbreaking for me to see how many women will claim to be sexually conservative, loyal to their husbands, not willing to have sex on the first date, etc. who will seek an attractive man out and have sex with him. There is almost an unspoken understanding that goes on in the world where women simply need to ensure that the world thinks of them as angelic like (i.e. loyal wives, perfect girlfriends, non-promiscuous) yet alone and in private are willing to have sex within a very short time of meeting an attractive man. To be completely forthcoming, I've almost given up on the idea that there are truly loyal women out there any more because these days it seems like the vast majority of beautiful women in committed relationships are very good at establishing and maintaining a façade of their positive qualities to their significant others and social circles while hiding the fact that they still routinely seek out sexual gratification unbeknownst to these people. So I will never feel it is my right to judge or tell others how to live their lives morally, but I think that men who have mastered attraction come to view such things as marriage and engagements as anachronisms of past traditions that very few women actually still adhere to since a majority of them are very willing to have relationships with other men despite being a wife or girlfriend. Another criticism of the book is the lack of "new material." I think this is untrue its just that Anton presents behavioral principles to follow rather than explicit techniques. People looking for those specific techniques might be better off looking at some of the PUA books out there or maybe even looking on Google to get what they want. Hope this review was helpful.

This book is absolutely amazing. I've read 100's upon 100's of books from every genre. This book is at the top for me. Every Man should read this book. This is not just for getting good with women, although that'll come naturally when you understand the mindset. This will give you a deep perspective on life. You'll want to study this book and love every minute of it. I keep uncovering something new every time I read it. I wish I could meet W. Anton personally and thank him for writing this masterpiece.

I have been in this topic of Pick-Up for almost a year now.Before anyone reads this book or any other book about seduction or "Game", I highly recommend Neil Strauss' "The Game".This books is great in the sense that it will lay down the fundamentals of many subjects about Game: Mentality, Inner Game, Social Conditioning etc.You wont find a cheesy pick-up line, or a "method" like other Game related books say so (trust me I've read plenty)This book really helped me get my new "Social" lifestyle started. The results are truly showing after 4 months of reading it.Overall; A great read to get yourself started in Game or to simply destroy the social conditioning you have had til now

I could write a lot but will keep it short: this book will forever change my life.I noticed a lot of brainwash in many areas of my life and I learned a lot of things but never recognized my baby brainwashing regarding women and sex. This book helped me getting rid of this last brainwashing piece as well. Can’t appreciate the author more !

Over 4 years ago, I was feeling incredibly frustrated with “colleagues” blocking and white knighting me at work; Pluto people while they served themselves as they pleased. This was one of the very first pick up books I purchased and reading it picked up my morale and through this I had an attractive, young, very early 20s girl looking for me at my workplace. Initially, when I asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend which I ignored through Anton’s guidance. And the original, even younger girl who had showed me very poor treatment I couldn’t get rid of. I knew she was interested but as a beta male she was going to make wait forever. Never, ever put a woman on a pedestal or she will treat you like trash and you will waste months and years with oneitis.This book is about approach, approach, approach with no excuses acceptable; binning all our socialization nonsense which benefits society but will hold you back deliberately. Anton doesn’t provide a model to help you with your approach anxiety and fire up attraction. It does fall down here. But I am a huge fan of this as I was a generation older than the girls above. Enough said. Buy, this could be your life saver.

It changed the perspective I had of women.In less than a month I started dating tens of girls and now I'm happily engaged with the love of my life.Not a joke.Try it.