What Do You Say After You Say Hello

I found this book in my parent's library around 1978. I read it. It is among the most useful books I have ever read. I employed these suggestions and strategies throughout a 30 year (so far!) successful business career. This is a must read, especially for people uncomfortable in social settings. I wasn't but it still pushed me toward the classic art of conversation, which is an art and one to be studied.

If anyone is thinking about eatting married or starting a relationship... this book is a good read!

Looks like the length of two classes in college. I was looking for the basic ideas, but this might be a dissertation.I probably won't read it. I'm going to look for something a little more 'beginner' or at least shorter.

First few chapters were very dry. Author takes forever to make a point. Spends so much time proving that he can sound smart. Had to close it and generated a refund code.

I'm reading Eric Berne's works out of personal interest. In his witty characterisations of the quirks and delusions of his patients, I see myself, my family, and my friends. In the context of transactional analysis, I'm able to make sense of some of the defects in my own personality and thereby make positive changes in my life.

This is Avery hard book to read. But if you want to go straight to the AT source, this is it.

I do have one Chinese version however the original one is a precious treasure. Love to have it though it is published at my eldest brother's age. The total conditions are quite good.

At over four hundred pages, this will take awhile to read. Think it will be worth the effort.

Reading the first book "Games People Play" also by the same author, was a real game changer for me.I was told about Transactional Analysis, the process of understanding communication, by a management consultant used by my business, as a tool to understand where communication breaks down between management and employees/team members... But right away I noticed that this process actually turned a light onto my understanding of problems we experience with communicating with customers, which really did peak my interest and spurned me onto buying this book!So I delved deeper, and started to read "Games People Play", and with almost every page my understanding of human conversation improved by an insane amount.It has allowed me to instantly spot "No win" conversations (or games) very quickly during a conversation, rather than finding myself after these conversations wondering where I had gone wrong, or how the other person could not understand the logic I was trying to explain.It also helps with confrontations, either where the other person is being aggressive, but also identifying how my communication may be misinterpreted.This book continues with this work and further explains many situations and conversations, which explain quickly where the two people are positioned, what is really driving what they are saying, how those conversations can go wrong, but also how they could be improved and go well.The books also explain so many other parts of human nature, such as why sometimes when a someone will seem to be overly familiar we feel threatened, or even that the other person may have an alternative motive, but also why someone not showing us the usual amount of attention, may spark feelings of being shunned, rather than seeing the other causes and motives.We really are a mad bag of emotions and chemicals as a species, but this book and the previous one really do unlock secrets of communication, and put us back in the driving seat of being in control of how we express ourselves and deal with other peoples emotions and motives.Amazing book...Having an extensive collection of books on the subject of business, marketing and psychology, I would say that "The Games People Play", "What we say after we say hello" and "The Chimp Paradox" are three books I would recommend that anyone with a casual or serious interest in what drives people, should have on their bookshelf.

I have an interested layperson's interest in TA. For me it makes sense and would explain aspects of my life and those of others I know.This was a good resume of the script or scripts that people follow. The writing style however is a bit laboured at times, with some concepts almost tenuously derived. Eg whether a patient is spincterised via the bottom, mouth etc. I'm not enough of an expert to refute or agree with this, however I couldn't see how this thought was arrived at in the context of the preceding text.To conclude, I've learnt some new things and the book has provoked some interesting discussion, but it's been quite heavy weather.

I'm currently studying transactional analysis and this is one of the texts that of course it's founder Eric Berne wrote.I wish I could write positive things about this book but I really can't - it's relevant in terms of the premise and there are parts which I have found useful but it such a difficult book to get into. The writing style is (in my opinion) overly pretentious, and as someone who is not un-intelligent, I often found myself reaching for a dictionary to understand what he was trying to convey... Also I personally did not like the comparisons with fairy tales, as for me this was unhelpful.I'd recommend "Games People Play" by Berne much more than this as that is written in a more easily digestible style and I've personally taken a lot more from that book.

Intriguing and well-written book. Good quality of book even when second-hand. Good value for money.

If you want to communicate well and to understand yourself - and other people - better, you ab-so-lu-te-ly need to read Eric Berne (Games People Play, too)