Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Bliss

Dear Lover changed the way I think about relationships and gave me permission to seek a deeply spiritual connection with another human being. I was always looking for the kind of love that Deida writes about and yet I felt guilty looking for more than 'checked boxes' from my lovers. The kind of love Deida describes is my new barometer for connection and prerequisite reading for my future relationships.

One of the deepest, most profound books I ever read. I just finished it - it changed my way of seeing myself in a relationship forever and helped me understand that it was ME pushing others away - and not the other way (which I thought most of the time they were doing).It takes a lot to open up, to truly open up and love with all you have - to go beyond your inner shells, to love yourself so deeply that you inner light can shine into the world - without a doubt.I am so happy that I read this book - and this is, by the way, one of the books I read through without reading another one next to it. It caught me once and never let me go... of course my ego sometimes said to me: that's not true, the other person has just as much to do with it all - as you have - but in the end, my ego go quieter and quieter and was finally silent, the further I got into this book.I especially love the letters at the beginning from each chapter.David Deida has a deep and very beautiful way of writing. I am lucky that I found it - it's one of the best guide books I ever read (and, yes, I am VERY honest: I read many...)

I bought it for a friend after reading The Way Of The Superior Man, this book's companion. She doesn't believe in God and couldn't get past the mention of a higher power, so I guess atheists don't get to benefit from Mr Deida's wisdom. For everyone else, I think he has the best understanding of the male/female dynamic out there.My friend's other complaint was that the information was too new and too different from what Dr. Phil and everyone else teaches. She said that if the contents of this book were legit then everyone would already know this. That complaint should be an encouragement for every person out there who thinks Dr. Phil is an idiot and is afraid to buy a relationship book for fear that it will contain the same old warmed-over nonsense.If nothing else, this book contains NEW information, stuff you haven't heard before, stuff I look forward to trying out on the next open-minded woman I meet.I won't go into a relationship again with a woman who can't grasp this. I think Dr. Phil works for the divorce lawyer's lobby and David Deida is on our side, and since this book is tragically out of print, you can get it cheap and take a chance on finding that one in a million relationship.

While I would've given this a five-star rating if the writing were less redundant, I did find the repetition of the same ideas expressed in different ways to be surprisingly helpful. It seemed like hearing it over and over and over again was necessary for me to fully comprehend the message.This book came into my life when my marriage was on the brink of collapse. Our communication had dwindled, and the tension between us was palpable. One night, everything erupted, leaving us feeling utterly broken and lost, yearning to love but paralyzed by the fear of releasing our egos.In moments of despair, I questioned myself: What can I give to him? What haven't I tried? In the darkness, alone and in tears, it felt as if the divine spoke to me, reminding me of this book as I prayed for answers.The author's explanation of the feminine yearning for love resonated with me, mirroring my own feelings. Having it articulated by the Masculine Guru himself served as confirmation and reassurance, affirming that this type of love is indeed real, not just a fantasy.I found the love letters at the beginning of each chapter truly captivating. The compassionate and loving tone, along with the author's expression of the masculine frustration toward the feminine's closed heart, resonated deeply. The emphasis on how the natural masculine way can inadvertently cause the feminine to close up echoed my husband's expressions of hurt and frustration, albeit presented in a more refined manner.Gotten to halfway through the book in just two days, I felt compelled to follow the author's advice of opening and surrendering to love. Approaching my husband, we reconnected in a way we never had before. My devotion to love opened his heart in a manner I had never witnessed. Together, we experienced a mix of emotions, from tears to laughter, culminating in a deep, sweet love making.A month since that transformative night, we find ourselves dancing, navigating the ebb and flow, contending with the egos that harden our hearts. Yet, I recognize that I am embodying divine love. I feel honored to present this gift to my husband, a journey of devotion to love that, in its essence, brings both of us closer to God.

I don’t write many reviews but for this book I just had to! If I could give 10 stars I would! If you are a woman who is on the journey to do self work you will love this book. It peels back so many different layers exposing our true nature as women. Our true desire and longing for love! I’m on chapter 10 now and I can’t put the book down.

This is by far the most beautifully written book I've ever read and in my opinion the best one David Deida has written. His books are pure gold.

Amazing to be read for women to be understood and for men to understand a woman. Recommending it from heart

Wow! This is the most erotic AND spiritual book I have ever read. Deida's understanding of women is profound. This book should be required reading!

I saw a recommendation of this book in a website I usually read and enjoy about dating/relationship advice for women, and I thought I'd give it a go. I have only read a few of the chapters... or tried to read, because it has been impossible for me to finish any of them. The whole book seems to be written in a sort of mystical and overly exalted tone that soon becomes insufferable, and seems to be only so much mist to hide the fact that there are very few clear ideas and even less well expressed arguments. I found it repetitive and dull, and I got tired very quickly of sentences like "Your heart might yearn for this, your heart might hurt because of that...", "open your heart fully to attract a man that loves you fully and totally...". So, dear man, how does that work? Can you please go down from the clouds of divine love and elaborate for the less joyously illuminated? You keep repeating the same vague metaphors incessantly, but you never get out of the "offering yourself open to God", "masculine and feminine essences", "heart's deepest desires" and such quackery, and then, mixed up with this puffed up mysticism, here comes the very pedestrian and dullish talk about 1st stage, 2nd stage and 3rd stage men... Oh, my, what a recipe for love-making! I wonder what other people who bought this book expecting to find clear advice for their love life have been able to get from it. In my case, to sum up, I didn't get anything from it, but who knows, maybe you will... Just make sure to read the excerpt that's available with the "Look inside" function before paying for it, though. I'd have saved a few bucks if I had.

Deida is a magician - he writes about reality, yet a reality we had not noticed. He says obvious things that are shocking, yet instantly recognized by the heart. Nothing had ever prepared me for his truths, which is mildly upsetting - how did we lose touch with ourselves so?