Kiss and Run: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl's Guide to Overcoming Fear of Commitment Paperback – February 6, 2007

This is the most amazing book. I swear to God I thought there was something so very, very wrong with me until I read this book. NO ONE talks about female commitmentphobia--I think maybe they just label it an anxiety disorder or something. I think many women don't recognize they ARE commitmentphobes and that might be one of the reasons it's so often labeled a male phenomenon. However, if your relationships are CONSTANTLY not working out, you see a pattern in your relationships or lack thereof, or relationships give you insane anxiety, you might want to give this book a shot.This book gave me hope and made me feel not only normal, but not alone. The book is sprinkled with real life women "confessing" about their relationships and commitmentphobia and it was such a relief just to see some of these women's thoughts in print. So many parts of it were like reading my own thoughts and the most helpful part was actually when the author told people what NOT to say to a commitmentphobe--people have been saying this stuff to me forever and it always sets me off on another anxiety ridden tangent. Nice to know these common sayings/pieces of advice are not always to be taken as gospel truth. Now I know where my commitmentphobia most likely comes from, what behaviors I have that don't get me what I want and what I can do about them.I am not exaggerating when I tell you what a miracle reading this book was for me. It is somewhat disappointing to hear that commitment phobia will most likely never be something I'll be entirely rid of, i.e., it might rear its ugly head at any time, but at least this will make it easier not to fight it so much when it does. This book has helped me realize how often I self-sabotage because of my fear of commitment and now that I feel like I'm not a completely crazy, I can get to work on some of her suggestions.I'd give this book to half my female friends, but I think some of them are in denial!

This is a good book. There were many parts in this book that made me look at things from a different perspective, and the quizzes I found fun and interesting as well. Sometimes the way she words things may seem a little immature but I found it entertaining for the most part and had some good laughs at a few of her analogies and examples. For women, this is a good book to read if you think you tend to suffer from any sort of commitment issue, but keep in mind this is just one book - all the information on this topic and tips on how to get over it isn't compiled into this one book. I would recommend reading this book, among others as well! More than anything though, it made me feel like I wasn't alone, and it felt so good to hear her describe things that I have felt but didn't know how to express or word. She hit the nail on the head a couple times, and it's just a really great feeling when you feel like you understand something for once :) I'm starting to read the book "Getting to Commitment" by Carter Sokol, and it's very good so far. That book is geared for both men and women and I think it would be another good book to read on commitment phobia.

This was a good read and I could relate to what the author was saying. I would definitely recommend it to those who may be questioning why their relationships may not be working out as I felt there was some solid advise given in the book.

This book is probably the only book that has ever changed my life. First of all, this book isn't just for commitment phobes. This is a guide for anyone who is in relationships! This book is for every woman to learn about themselves. It is a page turner and can be useful to everyone. The last chapter is the most helpful of all! My favorite part is when the author contradicts the whole men are from different planets thing. The author details helpful advice, point after point. She is extremely intelligent and well versed in what she does. As someone who has grown up with divorced parents, this book has opened my eyes and changed my life in ways I didn't even know.

I really enjoyed this book and it helped me immensely. My commitment phobia hasn't gone away completely, of course, but I don't feel so alone anymore AND I know that a lot of my thoughts spring from my phobia. Furman devotes each chapter to a different type of commitment phobe and I didn't find my type until the very last chapter, so I felt a little bored through the other chapters. But once I read the "long distance runner" chapter, I felt like someone had watched me and written about me. The points she makes and the advice she doles out in that chapter and the final chapter were all very helpful.Perhaps my favorite thing about the book, though, was when Furman debunked several relationship myths, like, "you just know" when you meet the right one, when, really, that's just revisionist history. Great stuff. Definitely check it out if you find yourself sabotaging amazing relationships.

I came into this book pretty sure this wasn't about me. Now, I've read the whole thing and several chapters several times. I don't believe there is anything wrong with a girl not wanting to be in a relationship, but there's no use pretending to want to be in one, and putting all that effort forth to maintain one, when you really want to live the fun, breezy single life. Sure, sometimes it's lonely, but this book really points out all the different ways we kinda say we want one thing, while really we have one foot out the door because it's not what we want. I read this in conjunction with "Finding your Inner Bitch" Elizabeth Hilts, and "20 something 20 everything". Together, I've started to learn what it is to make a commitment to oneself. It may sound dumb, but don't knock it until you try it. Truely impressive results.

This was one of the best books I've purchased. I caught myself picking apart the man in my life because I was scared of commitment, and this really helped me gain insight. I'm still a little overly-cautious, but much more aware of my motives and reasoning. I've passed this book along to my single girlfriend that always picks "unavailable" men, with hopes she may see her own apprehensions and ways to overcome them.

Do not buy this book is you genuinely suffer from anxiety around relationships and commitment and are looking for answers. The first chapter describes the problem reasonably well, but the rest of the book is unhelpful in terms of any realistic solutions for people with psychological difficulties around relationships - it is overly simplistic, far too light-hearted and does not take into account the depth of the problem. The book actually made me feel worse about the difficulties I have.