Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has BPD

This book was referred to me by the psychiatrist who has been dealing with a teenage family member diagnosed with BPD. It is a subject I had no knowledge on, but after reading this book I have gained a good working knowledge of the condition, and can understand who was deemed to be an attention seeking problem child, and able to identify behavioural traits that were previously a mystery to us in our home. My spouse and our child of 16 years are working together through the understanding we have gained, and are able to interact not only together, but with the therapists that we deal with. This understanding brings empathy into the process, and tolerance and frankness as a balance of dealing with a complex situation that impacts the family as a whole. What is good about this book is that it is not a theoretical dissertation on a subject that may be taboo to many, but a relevant explanation of the condition for which no one is to be blamed, and in the long term can have drastic results, such as suicide. Real life examples are used to explain the pattern of behaviour that may be experienced, and how this is practically dealt with, both at home and clinic level.

What we've found as parents searching for the best, the best life we could provide our daughter is... in the end, all the effort, the education we learned, the multiple psychiatrists our daughter saw, the drugs that are currently available, the counseling, the police, juvenile detention, the books we've read, the people we've talked to, trading stories with other parents in the same boat, the church, the activities, mother nature, camping, boating, learning to drive, giving and taking away freedoms, long hours of silence and frustration, praying to God, middle of the night running away, not even sports, well.... none of these things helped my daughter. She failed or dropped out of everything. She attended 9th grade 3 times, and still didn't pass. I am so sorry for other parents currently going through this, grasping at ANYTHING that promises hope. and doing e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g in their power to help their child. It isn't even a money thing. We found assistance even without much money. Our child is nineteen now. Some things improve with time, age, and maturity, but some things remain. She has not been able to hold a job for more than a day since the age of sixteen. It's sad that even work experience will escape her and possibly effect her life for years to come. She associates with the lowest common denominator of people, others who have no aspirations, goals, trust, or worthiness. Her boyfriends are a nightmare. Some have never been allowed in our home. It's so very sad. Not even a partner helps. She spins through friendships, gaining a friend, then getting screwed by that friend. She is a better friend than what she receives. Over and over and over again.

This book was something I bought, out of desperation, to try and help understand what my child was going though.After 2 years of misdiagnosis (depression, anxiety, panic disorder, self harming) BPD was finally diagnosed, because of my own research online and talking to the psychiatrist about it. She has every cluster associated with it. Anyhow, this book really have me an understanding of her thought process, though finding a dbt place is just about impossible at the moment and the cost associated with it... especially after the medical bills that have accumulated over the last 2 years.The book helped me be more patient and try to understand a little more where she was coming from, I definitely felt more inspired and am able to stop and think about my interactions when something goes aloof.

This is a well-written and compassionate book about treating adolescents with borderline personality disorder. Fortunately, I am not the parent of a borderline child, but my mother has BPD and the symptoms are the same; she behaves like some of the teenagers in this book!Dr. Aquirre describes the characteristics of BPD clearly and concisely and explains the treatment options available. He has tremendous sympathy for parents and family members of these disturbed children and it's worth reading this book for the feeling of emotional validation alone. As the child of a borderline parent, I feel that parents should try their hardest to make sure their teenagers don't carry carry this terrible personality disorder into adulthood.

Very informative, even my daughter read it and agrees it is her, initially I though Bi-polar and selfishness and control issues. I her traits go back to early childhood and have gotten progressively worse. I only wish it wold help ME deal with my daughter. BEsides therapy I don't know how I can help her and the book really doesn't touch on that. I do wish DR's were more aggressive is diagnosing. HOw can you treat something that has no name?

We have a daughter we feel is in danger of the BPD path. This book has been a tremendous help and very insightful. I believe this book may also be helpful in order to intervene early in adolescents who may be overly sensitive to assist in understanding their thought processes, in dealing with them as parents, and in teaching them positive coping skills.The only drawback to the Kindle version is some of the sections appear to be out of order; however, all the text is there. Just be mindful when you are unexpectedly dropped a few pages further.

This book is a great find for parents dealing with a teen who has BPD. This disorder is often not diagnosed in teens, and the author goes into great detail explaining the reasons why this occurs. The author covers a great deal of information including causes of the disorder as well as diagnostic criteria. He also covers different types of treatment, including DBT and provides a nice list of resources broken down by state in the back of the book. I think this is the best book that I have read on BPD in adolescents to date.

This has been so helpful. It's taught me how to respond in certain situations and how to understand what my child is going through

Comprehensive but sensitive with enough anecdotes and science to empower rather than overpower. Not everything resonates but more than enough does so that I can learn and begin to hope.