Misunderstood: The impact of growing up overseas in the 21st century Paperback – August 15, 2016

I have not yet finished the book myself, however my partner has and this is her review:"I found 'Misunderstood' really valuable and easy to read because it combines anecdotes from young people and practical support strategies based on Crossman's well-grounded research about the impact of growing up in multiple countries.The book is divided into sections that make it easy to dip in and read about specific situations e.g. what it's like if your family is engaged in international business or missionary or foreign service. I was especially impressed by the discussion about how and why third culture kids suppress their emotions and how to support their emotional expression and growth.My partner went to 6 primary schools and lived in 17 houses whilst growing up in Australia and overseas. 'Misunderstood' could have made a big difference for him and for his family. So if you are planning an international career that will entail multiple family moves I encourage you to read this book now."

My children are Third Culture Kids (TCKs) and this book provides valuable insight in understanding the challenges and joys that a child experiences while growing up outside of their "home" country. As a parent, this book helps me to identify what my child may be going through and to recognize how their feelings and experiences differ from mine as well as how to validate and respect those feelings and help them navigate transitions. I really appreciated the multiple interviews/feedback from children of different backgrounds (missionary/government/business/adoption) and the way the book is formatted to help identify the speakers point of view. I read the book on Kindle but have since gotten a hard copy as well so I can easily revisit and add my notes - it's a great resource!

Provides update to Third Culture Kids with insights about more modern developments and their effects on TCKs.

I identify with the concept of Third Culture Kids, having grown up in a country where my parents were considered foreigners, many of the topics that Misunderstood covers resonate with me quite strongly. Growing up overseas, there were experiences and challenges that the average person who grows in one location does not know much about or understand, be it my parents, friends in my host country or family in my passport country. Having just finished reading this book, I plan to donate a copy to the international school that I attended and give another to parents on the PTA of the school to pass around; this is a great resource and will provide valuable insight to teachers and parents of TCKs, and TCKs themselves - perspective to questions about the feelings and behavior of TCKs that had previously mystified, confused and been overlooked.

It is almost eery to read Tanya's book after talking to my son regarding his transition back into living in the US. So many of the words and thoughts he expressed are identical to those in this book. I bought both of us copies so we could try and understand his feelings and realize what he is going through is both normal and ok. There are so many positive outcomes from exposing your child to living overseas I must admit that I did not realize also the conflict that poses when trying to understand where you fit in compared to many of your peers. Thank you Tanya for writing such a thoughtful and understanding book regarding this generations children who are growing up outside of their main culture.

Hi Tanya, I wanted to tell you I finished your book over Christmas and was very impressed. Your writing style is so clear and smooth. Much of the content was a review for me however your style of organizing it and including interviews with people was very interesting and a terrific method for communicating. It did not hurt that I knew some of the people that you listed. I really liked the last quarter of the book when you got into some of the observations of TCK's emotionally and long term. That was concise, clear and helpful. Well done Tanya!!! You are a terrific writer. Thanks for sharing your book.

This is a very helpful book. As a family who lived overseas for 4 years, this is helpful for understanding how my kids experienced life, and how it influenced them, as opposed to how the adults have been changed. For example, my blond, blue eyed, curly haired kid tells people he is from Beijing when they ask, because he lived there for half of his first 8 years of his life. He was upset at almost 11 that he couldn't put Chinese as his nationality on a school project. This book is thoughtful and insightful.

I read this as I am about to send my twin Third Culture Kids to university and the timing couldn't have been better. Tanya writes with wisdom and provides perspectives from a broad spectrum of TCKs. The anecdotes combined with the depth of her research was both thorough and accessible. I found so much useful information as well as encouragement and inspiration for help in raising my TCKs, especially since I am not one myself.

My 17yr old Third culture kid loves this book, she feels that finally someone gets her experiences and she can identify with lots of the things said.

Happy to see a friend's published book....and happy to read other TCK's stories, that are much like my own.

I work with a lot of TCk's and do a lot of writing about them too. This book is a must read for any modern TCK. Amazing insights into how being a TCK has changed over the past 30 years as well.